Summary: The relationship between Husband and Wife
HUSBAND AND WIVES HEIRS TOGETHER
Ephesians 5:22,25, 33
Wives – adornment of beauty that will last (comes from within).
God’s marriage plan:
Submit to husband (being a doer of the Word) – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” God is not asking a person to stay in an abusive relationship (ongoing abuse – unrepentant). God is not permitting the mate to be a “0” in the relationship.
Give honor as like a weaker vessel. Ephesians 5:25, “Husband, love your wives as Christ.” Wife’s model is like church subject to Christ (v24). Husband’s model is the head of wife.
I Cor 11:3 – Christian order
Spiritual head – Christ head of the man. Man is the head of the wife and God is the head of Christ. The man is not the boss in the spiritual. Spiritual headship in the home. We love our wives as Christ loved the church.
Jesus is the initiator of love
Jesus is the initiator of every relationship
Jesus is the initiator of spiritual principles
Wife is the responder not the initiator. Like Christ – the husband always keeps his part of the covenant. The church can always depend on Jesus and the wife is always to be able to depend on the husband. Jesus is the same yesterday – today – forever!!! (He is not moody after a hard day at work). Jesus never has a bad day nor leaves me or forsakes me. The wife is to be the apple of the husband’s eye. The husband willingly lays down his life for the wife.
Question: What is the measuring stick of Christian husbands?
Answer: Christ’s response to the church
I Peter 3:7 – Live within an understanding way (knowledge)
1. In relationship to understand of the Word of God
2. In relationship to understand of them (observer of the wife)
“My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge”
Marriages are destroyed for a lack of knowledge.
Wives – think differently than husbands
5 Ways to Love Your Wife
1. He protects us from evil (James 3:16)
I’m to be the initiator to stop strife in my house
2. He is to provide for (John 3:16)
Gives meaning to the items received
3. He is to praise her (Phil 2:5-8, Rom 5:8)
God always builds up the church
God is not condemning the church
God is never putting the church down
Husbands take the blame for the wife
4. He prays for her (Heb 7:25)
When you pray the Word, you began to see her as God sees her.
a. She is filled with the Spirit of wisdom and revelation
b. She is strengthened with all might in her inner man, rooted and grounded in love.
c. She walks worthy of the Lord and bearing fruit in every good work
d. She dwells in the secret place of the Most high
5. Proclaim the Word over her (Eph 5:26)
“… sanctify by the washing of water with word …”
Results Eph 5:27 – that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without a blemish.
Results: a wife without spot or wrinkle, holy, and blameless.
Matt 11:28 – come to me all who are weary and heavy leaden and I will give you rest. As Christ effects us so should we husbands, effect our wives.
I Pet 3:8 – To sum up
Husbands & Wives
Let all harmonious (promote unity)
Let all sympathize (having compassion)
Let all be brotherly (willing to fight for)
Let all be kindhearted (Christ like love)
Let all be humble in spirit (courteous, tender)
Husbands as you bless, the wife will bless back.
I John 4:19 – we love because He first loved us
I Pet 3:7 – husband as with a weaker vessel (like a ship takes us somewhere). Tugboat (weaker vessel) vs ocean liner. The weaker vessel brings the boat into harbor or out to sea.
She’ll help us fulfill our goal.
Prov 3:12 Wife’s model
Christ treat the church. Submission is an attitude obedience is an act. Under assignment (appointment) from God to be submissive to your husband. Yet the husband can never enforce or force that submission out of his wife. It must be freely given. An attitude of submission without being obedient to the request is a violation. Submission to the husband means that he has more responsibility in the relationship.
Submission – if a husband is submitted to God. The wife is submitted to the husband. Children submitted to the parents.
= death of rebellion
Rebellion – is the spirit of the anti-Christ. Is the same as witchcraft.