Summary: What does Jesus say about the covenant of marriage?
Jesus on Marriage
In 1960, in the United States, 70% of all adults were married.
Today, that number is just over half.
As a result, 8 times as many children are now born out of wedlock as compared to that same year.
In the 1960s, two thirds of all young adults in their twenties were married.
Now, only 26% of those in their twenties are married.
TIME Magazine reported that 40% of Americans polled believe that marriage is now obsolete.
The article is quoted as saying, “Neither men nor women need to be married to have sex or companionship or professional success or respect or even children.”
As a result, many people are not just cohabiting prior to marriage, but are instead are cohabiting “instead” of marriage.
And according to the most recent polls, less than half of Americans believe that cohabitation is morally wrong.
(Above info from AlbertMohler.com).
Furthermore, even those who do choose to get married are not seeing it as a permanent institution.
Determining the actual divorce rate is difficult to do; some claim that one in every two marriages end in divorce, however that is based on some flawed numbers which come out of the CDC (http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/whats-divorce-rate).
But even if the divorce rates were somewhat lower or higher than 50%, it is easy to assess just on an experiential level that the attitude toward marriage and divorce in America has taken a radical turn in the last half century.
Many people even practice divorce in their youth and young adult life entering and exiting multiple intimate relationships and experiencing emotional and physical connections which are supposed to be reserved for the marriage relationship.
IMPORTANT SIDE NOTE: People always ask me when I am going to allow my daughters to date. They look at me like I am a fool when I say, “never”. Dating is not a necessity. Dating means that I allow my daughters to go out into the world and share in and experience intimate relationships without any supervision or accountability. We do not plan to allow this.
Instead, my goal, which I have discussed with my oldest (and will with my youngest) is to aid her in developing healthy relationships, in particular the relationship with the man she will one day marry. They don’t get to have unfettered “alone time”.
They don’t get to practice being married, to practice intimacy, and practice divorce when things do not work out. Instead, their relationship will grow within a system of courtship which will involve more than just “take my daughter out and bring her back safe.”
Some people think the good dad is the dad who is “cleaning his gun” when the boyfriend arrives to pick up the daughter - to scare the young man; or the man who forbids his daughter from being in a relationship until she “is 30”. But that’s not it!
The good father is the man who begins talking with his daughter about the marriage relationship early, about the responsibilities, difficulties, and goals of a godly marriage, and works together with her to help her find a godly man to fill that role in her life.