Summary: The goal of parenting is maturity. For the knock-off version, the goal is happiness. God’s goal is spiritual maturity.
As a consumer, I say, “how can I make my life most bearable” NOT “how can I build into my
kids.” The reason why I was a stickler for getting kids to bed wasn’t necessarily building into
them but making my life bearable.
The goal of parenting is maturity. For the knock-off version, the goal is happiness. The kids’
happiness and the parent’s happiness in having a manageable life.
And, God’s goal is spiritual maturity. That is what he is trying to do.
My Most Important Learnings…
1) Enjoy every phase
“I hope it ends soon.”
2) You are the MVP
One of the things I admire about my parents is their handling of money. They have never
had any debt except for a mortgage. They have had adequate savings to buy a brand new
car with cash and then run it for 10 years. They are in retirement and not needing to bum
money off of me. That is a good thing.
But when I was younger I didn’t appreciate this at all. One of the costs of them being wise
financially is that I always got the knock-off brands. I’m old enough that I remember when
Nike first came out. The cheaper big box retailers at the time had tennis shoes that looked
like Nike except the swoosh went down. Instead of and argyle shirt with the little crocodile,
mine had a lion in the same color and proportions.
There is a beautiful original product of marriage, being single and Parenting kids. Our
default is to use society’s rules for marriage, being single or parenting and regardless of
whether those principles work or not, we miss the transcendent depth of the real thing.
They were motivated to this out of a higher goal of financial responsibility. However, most
of us have knock-offs in areas of our life that are much deeper in importance than clothing
and shoes. In fact, we don’t’ even realize we possess the knock-off an there is a deeper and
richer original that was conceived in the mind of God.
3) Build their confidence in every stage
It is never too late to be a great Dad because everyone wants one right now.
The goal is for your kid to be on your level. I will never be on God’s level but His goal is to
Jake Peeing on Me
We were gentle among you, just as a nursing mother cherishes her own children.
But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a
weaned child is my soul within me.
Having children doesn’t make you a parent anymore than having a car makes you a
mechanic. To be a mechanic you must work on your car and to be a parent you must work
on your kid.
“My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord,
nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and chastises every son whom he receives.”
7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For
what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without
discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and