Summary: Many dad’s are abandoning their responsibilities of fatherhood because they have bought into the lie that dad aren’t really that important.
Series: Lies Satan Tells
Lie: DAD’S DON’T REALLY MATTER
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
(Victor Parachin, "The Fine Art of Good Fathering," Herald of Holiness, February 1995, pp. 32-33.)
According to Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, a father’s involvement with a child increases the child’s IQ, the child’s motivation to learn, and the child’s self-confidence. In addition, children with involved dads are more likely to develop a sense of humor as well as an "inner excitement."
(Dr. George Rekers, in Homemade, vol. 11, no. 1)
A positive and continuous relationship to one’s father has been found to be associated with a good self-concept, higher self- esteem, higher self-confidence in personal and social interaction, higher moral maturity, reduced rates of unwed teen pregnancy, greater internal control and higher career aspirations. Fathers who are affectionate, nurturant and actively involved in child-rearing are more likely to have well- adjusted children.
(Keith Meyering, in Discipleship Journal, issue #49, p. 41.)
When the father is an active believer, there is about a seventy-five percent likelihood that the children will also become active believers. But if only the mother is a believer, this likelihood is dramatically reduced to fifteen percent.
1) The most direct charge in Scripture focused on the rearing of children is directed specifically toward fathers.
2) Fathers are ultimately responsible for the rearing of their children.
- Head of home
- Command is to them
3) Fathers will be held accountable for this responsibility.
4) A father’s actions today has a direct result on his children’s actions tomorrow.
“Provoke to wrath” parorgizoo; to rouse to wrath, to provoke, exasperate, anger
(Thayer’s Greek Lexicon, Electronic Database. t © 2000, 2003 by Biblesoft, Inc.)
My personal translation of “Any ye, fathers, provoke not your children to wrath...”
“Dad’s do not set into motion a series of actions that will result in your children facing the judgment of God”
I. DAD’S DO NOT SET INTO MOTION A SERIES OF ACTIONS THAT WILL RESULT IN YOUR CHILDREN FACING THE JUDGMENT OF GOD
A. We provoke our children to wrath/anger by...
1. Giving them material things rather than ourselves.
Charles Francis Adams, the 19th century political figure and diplomat, kept a diary. One day he entered: "Went fishing with my son today--a day wasted." His son, Brook Adams, also kept a diary, which is still in existence. On that same day, Brook Adams made this entry: "Went fishing with my father--the most wonderful day of my life!" The father thought he was wasting his time while fishing with his son, but his son saw it as an investment of time. The only way to tell the difference between wasting and investing is to know one’s ultimate purpose in life and to judge accordingly. Silas Shotwell, in Sept, 1987 Homemade
2. Trying to be their friends rather than being their fathers
3. Disciplining them out of anger/selfishness rather than love