Summary: In our society, dads have almost become irrelevant. But in God’s mind, fathers are almost indispensable. Find out why.
OPEN: A writer named Donald Ogden Stewart, had a son away at prep school. When his son reached the age of 14, Stewart wrote him the following letter: "Dear son, now that you have reached the magic age of fourteen, the time has come to tell you about the flowers and the bees. There is a male and a female bee, although I haven’t the slightest idea which is which. As for the flowers - we get ours from the Plaza Florist. Well, that takes care of that.
Write soon, Affectionately, Father.
APPLY: Last week we talked about the significant influence women have on their children and grandchildren. This week, I want to talk about Fathers. What role do they play in raising their children.
I. Actually, in our society, you wouldn’t think men played much of a role at all in the family
Over the past 40 years or so:
– Divorce has become increasingly common, so much so that many children have been raised without a father.
– Feminism has gradually succeeded in questioned the value of men in marriage.
– In vitro fertilization has allowed women to have babies without a man.
– And now, science has even succeeded in producing a baby mouse – the offspring of two female mice… no daddy required at all.
Essentially – in our society - dads have become a throw away commodity
BY CONTRAST, the Bible repeatedly stresses the value of both mother and father in the home
· The book of Proverbs opens with these words:
"Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck." Proverbs 1:8-9
· And again, Solomon tells his son:
"My son, keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching." Proverbs 6:20
Paul tells the early church that mother AND father are important to the upbringing of children, even when the husband is a non-believer.
“… if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 1 Corinthians 7:13-14
What in the world does this all mean? What it means is:
– God has placed a high value on BOTH a mother and a father being in the home..
– It means, that God believes - BOTH men and women have a valuable impact on - children’s lives
Biblically, Fathers ARE important in the home… more important than many people even realize
According to one study - children from a fatherless home are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide;
32 times more likely to run away;
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders;
14 times more likely to commit rape;
9 times more likely to drop out of high school;
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances;
and 9 times more likely to end up in state-operated institutions
ILLUS: In addition, reports of child neglect and abuse have skyrocketed since 1976. What caused that? Well, 1976 was about 10 to 15 yrs. after our nation embraced no-fault divorces. And, one of the greatest risk factors in child abuse, investigations found, is family disruption, especially living in a female headed, single parent household. It’s dangerous NOT HAVING a father in the home.