Summary: Love is not rude or self-seeking - 1 Corinthians chapter 13 verse 5 - PowerPoint slides to accompany this talk are available on request – email:


Love is not rude:

• Definitions of rudeness:

• Rude behaviour.

• Rude language.

• Rude attitude.

• Rude attire.

• Solution to rudeness:

• Matthew chapter 22 verses 37-40:

• "Love your neighbour as yourself”.

• Matthew chapter 7 verse 12:

• "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".

Love is not self-seeking:

• Definition of self-seeking:

• Philippians chapter 2:

• Unity and Union (vs 1)

• Opinions and Attitudes (vs 2)

• Myself and Others (vs 3-4)

• Solution to self-seeking:

• Be like Jesus (vs 5-11)


• Tonight we are only looking at part of one verse from the Bible;

• So let’s read it in a variety of translations.

• N.I.V. “ does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking.”

• NKJV: “…does not behave rudely, does not seek its own.”

• ESV: “…or rude. It does not insist on its own way.”

• GNB: " is not ill-mannered or selfish"

• TRANSITION: Now love might not be rude, but people often are!

• Here are some famous insults that history has recorded.


Famous insults Quiz – Who Said:

• Which comedian said: “I never forget a face, but in your case I'll make an exception.”

• Choices: Groucho Marx – Billy Connolly - Bob Monkhouse

• Answer: Groucho Marx

• Which actress said: “Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.”

• Choices: Mae West – Margret Thatcher Marilyn Monroe

• Answer: Marilyn Monroe

• Which talk-show host said:

• “I don't approve of political jokes; I have seen too many of them get elected.”

• Choices: Larry King – Jon Stewart - David Letterman

• Answer: Jon Stewart

• Which wit said:

• “I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it.”

• Choices: Oscar Wilde – Alan Bennett - Mark Twain

• Answer: Mark Twain

• Which wit said: “He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends”

• Choices: Oscar Wilde – Alan Bennett - Mark Twain

• Answer: Oscar Wilde

My favourite insults or comebacks are credited to Winston Churchill:


• Lady Astor the first woman to sit as a Member of Parliament (Conservative);

• To sit in the House of Commons.

• On one occasion she said: "Winston, you're drunk!"

• Winston Churchill replied:

• "Madam you are ugly but in the morning I shall be sober!"


• Bessie Braddock was a British Labour politician. Nicknamed 'Battling Bessie':

• She once said to Churchill:

• "Mr. Churchill, if you were my husband, I'd put poison in your tea."

• Winston Churchill replied:

• "Madam, if I were your husband, I'd drink it."

• TRANSITION: Now love might not be rude, but people often are!

• I would imagine almost every day someone is rude to us;

• Or maybe we are rude to someone else!

(1). Love is not rude.

(a). Definition of rudeness:


• Why is it rude to pick your nose in public?

• Why is it rude to chomp and slurp your food at the dinner table?

• Why is it rude to break wind loudly in Church?

• More seriously why is it rude to push in at queues?

• Why is it rude to drive aggressive or tailgating other motorists?


• Why is it rude to use the word ‘Hun’ to a German, or ‘Jap’ to a Japanese person?

• Why is it rude to use foul language in front of other people especially children & seniors?


• Why is it rude to deliberately ignore a legitimate and polite greeting?

• Why is it rude to or question to communicate disregard for the other person?


• Why is it rude to failure to dress appropriately for an occasion?

• i.e. whether by dressing too informally, too formally,

• i.e. Immodestly or inappropriately.

Quote: CS Lewis writes that:

"A girl in the Pacific islands wearing hardly any clothes and a Victorian lady completely covered in clothes might both be equally 'modest,' proper, or decent, according to the standards of their own societies" - but that in each culture, the idea of immodest, improper, and indecent dress existed, and that violating the culture's standard was rude.

Now I would suggest all those examples are things that are rude:

• Rude behaviour.

• Rude language.

• Rude attitude.

• Rude attire.

Question: But why are they rude?


• At first glance these things don't seem to be connected, but they are!

• What they have in common is this:

• They don't care about the feelings of other people.

• Rudeness is not about breaking silly, fussy man-made rules!

• It's about breaking the second most important rule God ever gave us.

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