Summary: I touch on both subjects and how they need to work hand in hand
Marriage and Sex
Today I want to talk a little about Sex and Marriage and the importance of them being together hand in hand and not one without the other. The purpose of this is to keep you away from immoral thoughts and actions. I did say thoughts too and for good reason. Let’s start with the reading from the good book itself.
1Cor – 7:1-9 – Now concerning the things of which you wrote me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her won husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to the widows; it is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self control, let them marry, for it is better to marry then to burn with passion.
Yes sexual immorality is out there even when we want to think it is not. It shows its ugly head in many different ways. One of which is through thought. We see someone that we think is so hot that we have to have them then our minds go in many different directions. This is due to Satan using his powers of persuasion over us. The more we give into it the worse it gets. But here is where we are fooled because each time we give in it easier and easier for us to fall into Satan’s traps. When he has us in his lasso there he can ring us in with other bad and evil thoughts. When this happens thoughts that we think are harmless can turn into actions that we don’t need to be involved in. How scary do you think that is? To me it is very scary that our minds can be so easily controlled. This is where I wish that the good Lord himself didn’t give us freewill. Freewill can get us into loads of trouble if not used properly.
Let me clarify something. I am not saying that you as a male should not desire a female. Heck that is where love comes into play. We need to know the difference between an infatuation and love. The innocent standard crush or infatuation is harmless and could or should I say can lead to love and desire for the ONE woman you want to spend your life with. But when you reach that stage you need to know what other signs to look for and make sure they are the right signs from above. You are to love and desire everything about your mate. This includes the tolerating of the things you don’t like about them. These things can be worked on. I am not saying a total personality makeover but this is where patients come into play. That is something I will discuss later on.
When you have fallen in love with your mate or as God’s love with your mate that is the perfect love you can have for each other is through God’s eyes. We need to remember God created woman out of man and that right there should tell you man and woman are meant to be together. It is a perfect match in one way or another. When marriage comes into play it is that (spiritual) contract or the joining of the two with God as the witness. But in marriage He not only is a witness He is someone who we also make the bond with.
I use the term bond because when you bond with someone you become one. That is where the sacrifice comes into play. In verses 3 and 4 come into play. We there turn ourselves over to each other. If you think about it that is where the sex comes into play. It should not be work it should be special. He wants us to be happy and experience pleasures. But within reason and within what He says is good. Again here is the catch it is to be with one man and one woman. NOT A HIEREM. Those days are long and over. The time is of the New Testament and under Jesus’ rule.