Summary: Our relationships with our spouses and children from a scriptural standpoint
BALANCE IN THE HOME
LESSON # 3 PARENTS TOWARD CHILDREN--CHILDREN TOWARD PARENTS
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
• Our text is in the form of instructions to children primarily.
• Since we are adults, we need to consider this relationship of life from the parental viewpoint.
• We will take that approach.
• Of course, we need to teach our children their responsibilities.
• But, from the vantage view of parenthood, we will profit more to study this portion of the lesson as parents.
• Obedience to “…parents in the Lord” is declared to be right (Ephesians 6:1).
• To a mature adult this is quite obvious.
• But, the “rightness” of obedience is a concept that has to be learned.
• Children must be taught the fact.
• This, then, is our responsibility.
• The best way to teach the rightness of obedience is by providing consistent and reasonable rules and instructions.
• Then, a pattern of parental conduct which exemplifies the principles which are to be taught must be provided.
• Finally, a system of rewards and punishment must be carried out.
• By consistent and reasonable rules and instruction, I mean we should provide guidance that is both stable and understandable.
• If we are “for” a certain practice one week and “against” the next week with no apparent reason for the drastic change our children, seeing the inconsistencies of our attitudes and unable to understand our change, will doubt the “rightness” of obedience.
• To refuse to change is also unreasonable.
• But, without reasons for change or, the refusal to change, for that matter a parent can destroy the capacity of true obedience.
• Most behavioral patterns can be taught from the standpoint of godly principles.
• There are definite guidelines of conduct.
• Specific acts are to be forbidden
• Certain things are to be done.
• But, so complex is the life of a child growing up to maturity that he needs a set of principles to guide him in decisions where clear-cut instructions cannot be provided before time.
• Pr. 22:6
• Col. 3:20
• Eph. 6:4
• Job 1:5 pray for your children
David for Solomon
I Chr. 22:12
I Chr. 29:19
• Covenant, benefits of, entailed on children.
Ps. 103:17, Pro. 20:7
• Curses entailed-
Sex and Youth Culture:
• Worth the Wait
• Dating rules-just set some standards in your life and lines you will not cross.
• Personal pledges of purity and commitment
• Are christian statics any different than the horrible statics of other religious and non-religious groups?