Summary: When we pass judgment on others we have to be willing to accept the same judgment
(Divorce Series Part 2)
Scripture Reference: Matthew 7:1-5
Matthew 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged. 2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
The first thing I would like to do before I start this sermon is to take a moment and salute all of the men and women that God has placed in the position of Judge. I thank God for you and I pray that you never forget what motivated you to aspire to become a Judge in the first place
As I grew from adulthood to become a man I realized one thing to be soooo true. I realized that it is so easy to judge other people.
I mean I would say to myself that, “They should be ashamed of themselves for acting the way that they do.”
When God blessed me with the word I just knew that I was better than anyone who didn’t have the word inside of them.
I mean hey look I have a personal relationship with God and you don’t so I have to better than you
Now that I am married I realized that I can simply sit back and see everything that my wife is doing wrong and if I can only get her to see things my way then we would be able to get along a lot better and get on with our life.
I mean if my wife would only abide by my judgment of her actions, then she would see everything my way and life would be so much easier
I went to God with this dilemma and He told me that it was fine with Him if I judged my wife. He said that I could be as stern with her as I wanted. I could judge any of her actions that I wanted and use as stiff of a penalty as I deemed necessary.
However there was this one simple condition that I had to accept. All I had to do was accept the fact that he was going turn around and use the same measuring stick to judge my actions. Even my thoughts would be judged with the same measuring device that I used to judge my wife (Matthew 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.).
At first I thought about it and I thought how easy life would be if God stood behind my every judgment I made of my wife’s actions. I thought about just how powerful I would be. Of course God would never expose any of my hidden thoughts or secret sins I was sure.
However after God assured me of the fact that he would expose my secret sins I began to think twice. I never really noticed how big the beam was in my eye until God threatened to expose me and judge me. Suddenly the feeling of humbleness began to take over.
I had always hated hypocrites, in fact, that was one of the things that kept me out of the church at first. I never really wanted to hear what those hypocrite preachers had to talk about.
Now here I was looking in the mirror at a hypocrite that I was forced to live with. Me.
So I said, Ok God I will get it right and then I will judge my wife just how I want. He agreed
That is where I am right now. Trying to get it right. Every time I think I am close God pulls out this magnifying glass and I am immediately humbled.
In the mean time I have had to learn a new way to handle situations involving my wife. I had to use the example that God set forth with me.
I had to use the Love that God uses with me
(John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.)
I had to use the Joy that God uses with me
(Psalm 30:5 For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.)