Summary: How can you build a stronger marriage? What can you do to improve your marriage and make it into what God designed a marriage to be? (based on sermon series by Craig Groeschel, The Vow)
A Solemn Promise Pt2- Pursuit
(based on sermon series by Craig Groeschel, The Vow)
Continue with our series- A Solemn Promise- Pursuit
In Hot Pursuit
How many made- fool of yourselves-in- name of love-
trying to impress- someone- opposite sex, did crazy things would never do today?
Drove many miles- Baltimore Harbor Tunnel- 1st date- wore black/white checkered pants, white turtle neck sweater, black jacket.
It is amazing what people do in the name of love.
Mating rituals of animals- bird- sticks out chest and bows down to get a girl bird. Guys will puff out their chest to impress a girl- look at VIDEO.
One characteristic of people (men)-
By nature, we pursue what we do not have.
Guys- do all sorts of things to win a girl- things they would never do now- hours on- phone, chick flicks.
After men make the kill- all efforts to pursue stop.
This is when many problems begin in marriages.
What area of life can you not pursue/see improvement-
body-eat bad/no exercise, yard-no water/fertilize
Why do we think-can neglect-marriage and-get better?
Marriages that fail-one/both partners-stopped pursuing
A Solemn Promise
Review our First Solemn Promise from last week-
I promise that God will be my #ONE priority and my spouse will be my #TWO priority.
Second Solemn Promise-
I promise to always pursue my #TWO.
Leave- to loosen, let go of what you are holding and commit to something new-
to relinquish parents for spouse, but God is #1.
Joined- cling/adhere, fasten oneself to, stick like glue.
Our pursuit of our spouse must not end once married.
One couple- an example of hard pursuit (Gen 29)-
Jacob- loved Rachel, her father Laban made him work seven years for her- Laban pulled a switch- gave him her sister. Laban told Jacob he had to work another 7 years for Rachel.
Beauty of this story- married Rachel at- end of the first seven years, but Jacob continued to pursue Rachel.
God- looking for those who will always pursue Him as #ONE and their spouse as #TWO.
Sometimes-have good intentions-never become actions
We judge our spouse by his or her actions, but we judge ourselves by our intentions.
I was thinking about it, I just did not get around to it-
we must turn our intentions into actions.
Assignment (next seven days)
1. Say it!
Speak words of blessing and encouragement daily.
Learn to say thank you- thank you for-
cooking a nice dinner for me,
putting the toilet seat down,
last night- it was great fun,
picking up your clothes, etc.
Men- Pursue your spouse w/words of affection.
Why? Women enjoy being told that you love them.
Men, you may not know what that means-
words of affection- non-sexual words- affection.
Gentlemen-you can do all things through Christ Ph 4:13.
Ladies- Pursue- spouse w/words of affirmation.
Why? As confident as men want to appear, they need to know that you believe in them.
No matter how he acts-your opinion- important to him.
Men have been taught by the world, incorrectly, that he is only as good as his last accomplishment.
Important for men to know- wives think they did good.