Summary: The value of marriage has decreased in our society.
Fireproof: Raising the Value of Marriage
From a message preached by Scott Kallem, Pastor of 3rd Baptist in Marion, IL
June 7, 2009 FBC, Chester Dr. Mike Fogerson, Speaker
A In the 1970’s, a wave of no-fault divorce legislation swept across the nation (developed a culture of divorce).
1 Prenuptial agreements, shorter marriages, destruction of family
a Now, many states are realizing the socio-economic effects of easy divorce.
aa Negative effect on kids (impact on juvenile justice system, education, welfare, mental & psychological price has made states pay attention).
bb In 1997, Louisiana passed a “covenant marriage” law, allowing couples to ONLY file for divorce if infidelity, abuse, neglect, or imprisonment occurs (so far, only 5% of marriages have agreed to enter into legal covenant marriages).
2 Churches try mandatory counseling.
B Good ideas, but the answer to raising the value of marriage is not in the laws, mandatory counseling, but by a yielded life to the revelation of God’s Word.
1 When Jesus had finished these words, He departed from Galilee and came into the region of Judea beyond the Jordan; 2 and large crowds followed Him, and He healed them there. 3 Some Pharisees came to Jesus , testing Him and asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?" 4 And He answered and said, "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female , 5 and said, ’for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife , and the two shall become one flesh ’? 6 "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give her a certificate of divorce and send her away ?" 8 He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality , and marries another woman commits adultery ." Matt 19:1-9 (NASB)
a In Jesus’ culture, marriage was in trouble
b Even among religious people
aa Pastors, deacons, Sunday School teachers, church members experience marital troubles
bb It is what it is
c I want you to grab two non-negotiable truths that can help you raise the value of marriage.
I There are no excuses (vs. no-fault)
A Excuses seek to remove blame, justification for a behavior, to get away from an obligation.
1 Clip #1 (Caleb is trying to excuse himself from the marriage)
2 The Pharisees gave two excuses for dissolving a marriage.
a Excuse 1 (v. 3): Some Pharisees came to Jesus , testing Him and asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?"
aa This was a hot topic, controversial, highly-debated trick question.
• If Jesus answered one way, & was lax on divorce, He’d depreciate the Torah & offend one side; if He answered the other way, He’d offend the other side & lose people.
• Argument was from Deut. 24:1: When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house...Deut 24:1 (NASB)