Summary: First of the Exit Strategies Series: Reconnecting with you spouse following deployment
Reconnecting with Your Spouse
All scripture marked NKJV: The New King James Version. 1996, c1982. Nashville: Thomas Nelson.
This past week we celebrated an important milestone in American History. Some of you may have missed it.
On January 29, 1956, President Dwight D. Eisenhower, signed the federal act that formalized the beginning of the national interstate highway system. (http://www.theamericanroadside.com)
This system of highways revolutionized commerce, travel, business, rural and residential development and virtually every aspect of life.
One of the aspects of the interstate system that is most identifiable is the graded interchanges and limited access to the highway itself.
All along the highway are exits. Once we get off on the exit, we leave the highway into another world; a world of options, a world of commerce, a world of confusion, and a world of adventure.
We, as a Brigade and a Division, are about to get off on the next exit. We are leaving the predictable, repetitive, and routine life on the FOB for a new world; a world of options, a world of commerce, a world of confusion, and a world of adventure.
Like getting off the interstate, we have been off into these places before—this is where we come from. Nevertheless, getting off the interstate enters a different world from the interstate.
Over the next four weeks we are going to discuss our Exit Strategies. We are going to discuss how we are going to adapt to life off the FOB.
Tonight, we are going to discuss how we are going to reconnect with our spouses, once we leave the FOB.
The Bible teaches us that the Military marriage is a particularly difficult one.
Deuteronomy 24:5 says
5 “When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war or be charged with any business; he shall be free at home one year, and bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken. (Dt 24:5, NKJV)
While, I don’t believe this is written as a specific command, I see it as a contextual command for the people of Israel at that time. It tells us that the Military is a hard life for spouses. It is a no-brainer, but many people go into the Army thinking that everything will be taken care of. That is not always the case.
So, when we go back, I want you to first realize that there are going to be some bumpy roads up ahead. Be ready for them.
First, we need to;
1. Reconnecting Emotionally.
Ephesians 5:33 says--
33 Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Eph5:33, NKJV)
We need to be people that spend time loving our spouses and taking care of their needs.
Men, we are to love our wives, and women, you are to respect your husbands. We must reconnect in that part of the marriage that will endure through thick and thin, through distance and closeness, through hardship and prosperity—we must reconnect emotionally.
I am reminded of a book about the Great Depression. The author makes this point about the depression:
“It appears to me that our failure was first moral, then financial. Our recovery must be first moral, and then financial.”