Summary: People are quick to anger and slow to have forgiveness and resolution. James helps us deal with conflict and not act like the Hatfields and the Mccoys.

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Resolving conflict

James chapter 4:1-4:10


Turn to James chapter 4:1-4:10

In these verses James addresses two issues- Our issue of selfishness and why we have so many disagreements that explode into conflicts that need resolution. The second thing he addresses is our selfishness and why we need to surrender ourselves to God.

(1) Fighting (2) Surrendering to God.

Fighting is sure not new- Countries, Nations, people fight all the time.

Companies spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to make sure their employees get trained on anger management, conflict, resolution, employee stress, keeping their hands to themselves, keeping quiet and not becoming a disgruntled employee.

What causes quarrels and conflict? Envy!

Envy defined – a feeling of anger towards someone because they have something you want. (Repeat)

It is why countries go to war, it is why people go to war!

(2) tells us that some lust, hate, murder to have what they want.

I like what you got, I don’t like that you have it!


Most of you have heard of the Hatfield’s and the McCoy’s. The two famous families from Kentucky, but most do not know why this feud lasted over a decade, or why at least 12 people died. It was over a pig, that’s right, a pig!.

It started over a pig

It turned into timber rights

Escalated because one Hatfield was interested in a McCoy

Until bullets fly and years later they don’t even remember why they hate each other. They just do!

Fussing and fighting isn’t new. One of the first fights in the Bible is Cain getting mad at his brother Abel and killing him out of jealousy.

Just pick up the newspaper

Just turn on the news.

There is conflict everywhere.

Okay, what is the cause of conflict?

James doesn’t pull any punches- it comes from a battle within you. When you don’t get something that you want, you are ready to fight.

What starts as a spark, we pour gasoline on, until it is a full-fledged fight and a battle of desires.

We battle against other people

We battle against God.

Churches, a place of worship, a place where God’s people gather has been a place of conflict.

Denomination split

People leaving churches because so and so didn’t say hi to me.

Divorce within the church.

Board and pastor fight, pastor and congregation fight.

Christian homes become a place of turmoil

Hurt feelings

Broken relationships.

Divorce, people not talking to one another.

If I have not struck a cord yet, give me a minute. Because conflict hits every level of society.

Catch this,

This happens because of a battle that goes on inside of us.

(3) “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

Ask what? Ask for God’s help!

You don’t receive- why? Because you have wrong motives… it is all about you!

Oh God….fix that husband of mine.

Oh God…fix that wife of mine.

Change my boss, straighten out my neighbors, give me better parents, change my kids,

It is everybody else’s fault!

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