Summary: Using Genesis 48:9 this Father’s Day sermon can be used year around to help people appreciate their fathers or learn to cope with the absence of a good father figure.
“Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Perfect Dad”
Robert Kiyosaki (Ki yo sa ki) wrote a best selling book on finances called, “Rich Dad, Poor Dad”. It’s an awesome book that I highly recommed, but in my Father’s Day message today, I want to borrow part of his title.
All of us have a dad, but not all of us had a father. The gift of a true father in the family is another brilliant act of God. We need Godly fathers who understand their value to the home.
Today I want us to observe the three most common types of fathers:
I. The Rich Dad. He deserves to be honored.
When I speak of “Rich”, I’m not talking of material wealth. Some of the best fathers never had large amounts of money or possessions. I mean rich in a greater way. I’m talking about men who did it right. Men who got “neck deep” in fatherhood. Men who “Manned up” & accepted their responsibility with reverence and a sense of Godly duty. These guys deserve respect.
Jacob modeled the “Rich Dad”. He loved his dozen boys. When Joseph was taken from him, Jacob never stopped grieving. His heart was broken. When Jacob finally got to be reunited with Joseph after many years, the Bible describes it as one of the happiest days of his life. Jacob learns that he has 2 grandsons. I want you to notice the introduction that Joseph gives to Jacob when he brings the grandsons and grandfather to meet each other.
Joseph gives at least 3 things all “Rich Dads” give:
1.He Gives Positive Words.
“These are my sons whom God has given me”.
Every child needs to hear that from their father!
God modeled this same example when He spoke this blessing over Jesus at his baptism.
“This is my Son, whom I love, in him I am well pleased”
I hope you never underestimate the message that it sends when you when you publicly introduce your children with such pride and honor. It creates a sense of security in a child if they are blessed like this in the eyes of the “men of the village”.
2. He Gives The Blessing. “Bring them to me, I will bless them” Jacob wants them close. He blesses them openly.
3. He Gives the Gift of Meaningful Touch.
(Vs. 10) “Kissed them, embraced them”,
(Vs 14) “Stretched out his hand”.
Mark 10:13 “the children wanted to touch Jesus, He took them up in his arms and blessed them”
Illus. I love seeing a father spend time with his children. Cheering at games, working/playing together. I have friends who’ve been divorced. They share time with their kids. I’m impressed with how engaged they are and commend them for making it work. If you’re a father, you’re rich! God blessed you. If you’re fortunate enough to have a great father, don’t take them for granted. Men who are great fathers are rare.
II. The Poor Dads Effect should be Overcome.
Last week, I asked for those with poor fathers to tell me. Huge response! The girls still carry the pain, the boy often bury it.
A. The Absent Male. Walked out/little contact. Creates a child who’ll battle rejection/fears, & needs acceptance.
B. The Abusive Male. Physical, verbal, or critical, negative. You never measured up. No blessing given. Creates a child with deep hurts/anger/low trust in authority.
C. The Alpha Male. Threatened by another male in house. Fears being supplanted or replaced. Overly nurtured by women, (mother, sisters, & wife). Can’t share the attention with a son. Highly jealous of a son.
Creates a son who becomes an “over achiever”, successful, competitive, in hopes of fathers acceptance.
D. The Anemic Male. He’s weak. Uses the “victim” role to get sympathy, women to serve & nurse him. Plays the “guilt card” to manipulate people but gets angry when it doesn’t work on some people.Creates care giving daughters & highly independent sons. The daughters look for weak men in relationships, while the sons react & become opposite of a weak man.
Illus. The Boxer Floyd Mayweather’s own father supported his opponent. What kind of man does that?
Winston Churchhill’s father was jealous of him. He couldn’t speak a kind word of him. Curchhill, the greatest leader of the day, in the book, “The Last Lion” says, “I would rather had been an apprentice for a brick layer, or run errands as a messenger boy, or dressed the windows in the local shops, if I could have had the support of my father.” His greatest enemy and critic was his own father. He never understood his jealousy”
I know a young man addicted to drugs, breaks in his parents home often & steals. I commend his father who said, “He’s my son. I’ll never turn my back on my son, regardless of what he does”