Summary: 3rd in a 3 part series on marriage using three movies as the springboard to Biblical truth for marriages and relationships.

  Study Tools
  Study Tools


Reel Relationships - Week 4

Romans 12:17, Psalm 86:5

INTRODUCTION: (Video clip from Sleeping with the Enemy - 29:16-32:40 = 3:34)

Some conflict in marriage is so horrible people will do anything to get out. Every time I see that clip my heart breaks because I know there are people that are that afraid, that desperate and would love to be on a bus or anywhere else besides in their homes. That is so sad. But I also know marriages that break up not because of horrible actions, like abuse or adultery, but because the couple just cannot seem to handle what has become the constant and consistent fighting in their lives. Over time they have become estranged from one another because they haven’t learned how to cope with conflict. You know, all of us start out expecting happy homes, all of us want fulfilling marriages, but the honest truth is we are selfish people. And when we add another person into our life, we must juggle two people’s wants and desires and that’s not easy. You see, marriage doesn’t solve problems, it uncovers them. So the important question we need to ask this morning is not “do we have conflict” but "how are we handling our conflicts?" That may be the most critical inquiry we can make, because unless conflicts are dwelt with, they will chip away at our relationships and eventually destroy them.


Let’s begin by admitting the reality: all couples fight! One preacher used to say, "If you say you have no conflict in your marriage then you either have a problem with lying or you have never wall papered with your spouse." This is not an earth shattering truth, all of us know and have experienced conflict. I’m thinking of the time several years ago that I was about to speak in chapel for our Church’s preschool and my wife was supposed to lead singing. But it was time to start and Deb was on the phone, so I became impatient and exasperated. So, when I went out to the auditorium, our Preschool Director, asked me, "Where’s Deb?" And I said in front of her and several teachers, "This is no news flash but she’s on the phone yakking her head off!" Then I turned around and there was Deb looking right behind me. Listen, if looks could kill!! Yeah, sweet Deb... it was the look... “You are so dead!” But I was frustrated and so made a bone headed statement that hurt my wife. And she gave me the kind of look where everyone else around just kind of silently slides away. And so with that between us she went up and led songs about love and I talked to the children about how we should love God and each other! And after work we had conflict! Oh yeah! The point is, every couple fights, every couple has conflict! Every one!

Someone has said there are three stages to marriage. There is 1)The honeymoon. That literally means “a sweet month.” Then comes 2)the “crash.” That’s where your dreams of a perfect marriage crash in the reality that things aren’t going to be perfect, there are going to be problems. You thought you married Matthew McConaughey, you got Homer Simpson. You thought you married Jessica Simpson, you got Roseanne. Then, stage 3) is the “Commitment” stage where you deal with reality and the two of you resolve to get through it. That stage is the “make it or break it” stage. Commitment is the very essence of marriage. But the truth is, all couples fight, so the most important question we can ask is, how do you fight?

Download Sermon With PRO View On One Page With PRO
Browse All Media

Related Media

Marriage Matters
PowerPoint Template
Plan For Marriage
PowerPoint Template
Talk about it...

Nobody has commented yet. Be the first!

Join the discussion