Summary: Lesson 5 on the home
THE ACT OF MARRIAGE
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Today’s lesson covers an extremely important aspect of marriage.
“Sex in the Marriage” I’m going to be very frank & open with you tonight.
A lack of sexual fulfillment is a leading cause of difficulties in marriage.
We want to approach this as mature adults with an open mind.
I said open mind.
Not open marriage.
Let’s get to it!
DO NOT ALLOW PRIDE TO KEEP YOU FROM ADMITTING A WEAKNESS IN THIS AREA.
1)IMPROPER ATTITUDES CONCERNING THE ACT OF MARRIAGE:
a)That sex is sinful:
Many have the attitude that sex is a dirty.
Some even go as far as saying it is,
“Reserved for darkness” Show that to me in the Bible.
Many a husband & wife never talk about the act of marriage.
Sex is ordained of God & is the gift of God.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
God told Adam & Eve to multiply & replenish the earth.
Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Satan is sly & will encourage sex before marriage.
He will also discourage sex after marriage.
Why is this?
Sex before marriage is sin.
No sex in the marriage will cause cheating to happen.
Then that is sin. Another attitude is.
b)That sex is unimportant:
Sex cannot make a bad marriage good.
However, it can make a good marriage go bad.
Another attitude is.
c) That women don’t enjoy sex as much as men.
May I say that is a lie straight out of HELL.
If that is the case.
I’m here to tell you something is very wrong.
Either a partner has the wrong attitude or has the improper techniques.
Wives should experience a climax most of the time.
Another attitude is:
d)If you do what comes naturally, you will be fine:
Most men know very little about their wife.
They know little about her body.
They no little about how it functions.
They know very little about what her needs are.
2)THE BENEFITS OF THE ACT OF MARRIAGE:
A) It helps guard against the sic of adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:1-5 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Notice the context of 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
From these verses we learn these principles:
1)Paul Warns That Refraining From Sex Too Long Is Not Good.
Verse 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
2)Sexual desire is normal, natural & God given:
God has given us a desire for food.
A desire for preservation & sexual desires.
This is a natural, God given desire.
God has placed in man’s biological make-up this need.
Wives better meet this God given need.
If not, Satan will put a sexually aroused female in his path.
May I say what goes around, comes around.