We are in the fifth and almost the final part of Guardrails. People keep saying, Was that
the end, was that the end? I’m like, No, there’s more. If you haven’t been with us, essentially
we’ve taken this thing that we’re so familiar with, the guardrail, and we’ve kind of created a
spiritual principle out of it, or maybe just a practical reminder. As most of you know, a guardrail
is simply a system that’s designed to keep vehicles from straying into dangerous or off-limit
areas. You’ve never seen the official definition, but if you’ve been here for this series, that may
be the only thing you remember—the official definition of a guardrail. The whole idea of a
guardrail is to keep us from dangerous or off-limit areas. We’ve said every single time in this
series that guardrails aren’t actually constructed or put in the dangerous areas; guardrails are put
several feet back or several yards back from the dangerous area to keep us from getting into
danger. A guardrail will damage your car, a guardrail can damage your body, but the whole idea
of a guardrail is to keep you from having the greater damage.
Now, we began to ask the question in the beginning, what would it look like to have
guardrails in other areas of our lives? We understand the advantage and the idea of a guardrail
when it comes to driving, but what if we had some invisible guardrails in the areas of our lives
where actually we run a greater risk of damaging our lives than simply driving on a freeway?
What if we were to identify areas like our finances and our moral life, our ethical life, our
academic pursuits, our friendships—areas where we would all agree, even though we wouldn’t
agree to the specifics, we would all agree that there are areas of life that if you cross certain lines, you hurt yourself. If you cross certain lines, you increase the potential of your future not being what you want it to be. That if you cross certain lines, it’s going to make relationships more
difficult; if you cross certain lines, it’s going to make your hopes and dreams less attainable. We
would all agree that whether it’s financially, morally, ethically, academically, professionally,
marriage, you pick it—there are things that if you do those things, there are just consequences.
These aren’t even religious things. These are just practical things.
So what would it look like if we were as individuals to create some guardrails to keep us
back from the edge of disaster? So we came up with our own definition of a guardrail. It’s a
standard of personal behavior, which means you pick your own, you make it up for yourself.
And I’ve given you some suggestions, a standard of personal behavior that becomes a matter of
conscience. The idea being there are certain things that when you do in your life you feel like,
wow, that was wrong, and you feel bad—you feel guilty, and there are consequences. What if
you stepped back, created some personal boundaries that everybody else may not agree with?