Summary: What kind of mothers do our children need? (Part 2 Building Phenomenal Families)
BUILDING PHENOMENAL FAMILIES (Part 2)
“The Kind of Mother a Child Needs”
As we celebrate the gift of mothers today, I want to outline just what kind of mother the Lord thinks a child needs.
A child needs a mother who will .....
I. BE WARM TOWARDS THEM
a. A Mother’s Love Protects Her Child.
The king [Solomon] said, "This one says, `My son is alive and your son is dead,’ while that one says, `No! Your son is dead and mine is alive.’ " Then the king said, "Bring me a sword." So they brought a sword for the king. He then gave an order: "Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other." The woman whose son was alive was filled with compassion for her son and said to the king, "Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don’t kill him!" But the other said, "Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!" Then the king gave his ruling: "Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not kill him; she is his mother" (1 Kings 3:23-27)
Solomon knew that the warmth of a mothers love will always protect her child.
B. A Mother’s Love Provides For Her Child.
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls (Pvbs 31:14-15).
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness (Pvbs 31:27).
II. SET WISE BOUNDARIES AROUND THEM
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6).
Dr’s Henry Cloud and John Townsend identify the incredible benefits of setting wise boundaries for you children (“Boundaries” p173ff).
The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbour as yourself" (Galatians 5:14)
It’s when kids have learned to love themselves, that they are able to protect themselves from being harmed. Skills like being able to say “no,” being able to walk away, and also telling the truth – these are self-protecting boundaries.
2. Take responsibility for their own needs
Jesus had learned this lesson – right in the middle of a busy time of great ministry he took off in a boat! We’re told that he did this ......
“.... because so many people were coming and going that [he and his disciples] did not even have a chance to eat” (Mark 6:31).
3. Sense of control and choice
4. Accept delayed gratification of goals
A child needs a mother who will teach them the wise boundaries of planning, patience and persistence. Jesus told a parable about this once .....
"Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it? For if he lays the foundation and is not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule him, saying, `This fellow began to build and was not able to finish.’ (Luke 14:28-30)
5. Respect the limits of other people
A child needs a mother who will teach her child to respect the “yes” or “no” of others - - - - before someone else does!! (And who knows what the consequences will be)