Summary: Part 2 of a series on the difference between the Kingdom of God and the kingdoms of this world. This one focuses on family living.
Dakota Community Church
June 3, 2007
Kingdom of God II
This morning I want continue our four week series of messages about the differences between the “Kingdom of God” and its citizens and the “Kingdoms of this world” and their citizens. The focus this week will be on family life. How do we do family differently from people who are members of the kingdom of this world?
First a brief review:
Jesus called them together and said, "You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you.
Three key examples of the differences:
When Jesus said “get behind me Satan” to Peter.
When Peter did not want Jesus to wash his feet.
When Jesus healed the guards ear in Gethsemane.
In Luke Chapter 12 we see an instance where someone tries to get Jesus to weigh in on a family matter in a kingdom of this world manner.
Someone in the crowd said to him, "Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me."
Jesus replied, "Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?" Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."
Jewish law gave the oldest brother the right to distribute the inheritance as he saw fit. The man wanted Jesus to use his public clout to get the brother to share. Jesus refused to be the man’s legal councilor or the brother’s ethical advisor because these issues were not central to the Kingdom of God. One thing was a Kingdom of God issue in this whole thing though – the greed that both men needed to deal with in their hearts.
In the kingdoms of this world a man’s life and worth is very much tied to the abundance of his possessions but not in the Kingdom of God. As citizens of God’s kingdom we may or may not wind up with many possessions but it matters not because our treasure is not in this world.
How does being citizens of the Kingdom of God change the way we live in our own homes?
1. We surrender our “power over” mentality.
Who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But I am among you as one who serves. You are those who have stood by me in my trials. And I confer on you a kingdom, just as my Father conferred one on me…
A.) In marriage.
Why is so much of the teaching in the church on marriage about who has power over who? Is the man the head of the house? Who wears the pants? The Bible says the wife must submit to the husband right? Children must obey right?
There are pieces of truth in this mix but the problem is we are looking at marriage with kingdom of this world eyes. – We need to begin to view the marriage relationship with Kingdom of God renewed eyes!
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
Many men think it is their job to be in control, that being in control is somehow strong or manly.
- You cannot force someone into submission.
- Submission is the choice of a free will.
We submit to Jesus with the knowledge that His will is always correct. Our will as men is not always correct and we need to be strong enough to admit that and treat our wives as the equal partners that they are.
B.) In parenting.
Then little children were brought to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked those who brought them.
Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."
"I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
Why children? He uses children as an example because their minds are unconformed to the patterns of this world. They have not acquired the need for power, money, race segregation or any of the other “power over” patterns.
What about in the home again?
What about discipline?
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.