Summary: In some form or fashion we all have experienced rejection and felt the effects that it brings with it and will continue to feel them for many years to come. Rejection is a part of life that affects each of us at some point and it’s not limited to only on
The Pitfalls of Rejection
1st Peter 3:14
Whither it was not being picked for the kickball game by the kids in the neighborhood, not making the football team, or the cheerleading squad, not going to the prom with the person you knew you would, or getting into the college you wanted, not getting the job you hoped for, not marring the person you thought you would ever since you were 10 years old, not getting the credit card, or having a marriage that you poured every fiber of your being into and have it destroyed in a moment of lust, by a person you thought was a gift from God. In some form or fashion we all have experienced rejection and felt the effects that it brings with it and will continue to feel them for many years to come. African Americans still feel the effects of being rejected as equal human beings and the results of slavery, Jewish Americans still feel the effects of a means of trying to eliminate a race of people by what is called the Holocaust, every one has felt rejection and suffered from the results of it. Rejection is a part of life that affects each of us at some point and it’s not limited to only one instance. The important thing that we need to learn is not so much how to avoid rejection, but how to avoid the pitfalls of rejection that is associated with it.
Some people have been able to bounce back from rejection and carry on with their lives as if nothing has ever happened. Then there are some that have experienced a deep emotional, damaging, and life changing experience that has caused them to psychologically internalize the experience as a personal battle within. They have become emotionally scared and feel devastatingly degraded.
A pitfall is a cistern, a hole, a prison, and an abode for the dead, a chasm, or abyss. Sometimes when we experience rejection we find ourselves in a chasm of emotional anguish and feel as if our hearts have been taken out of our bodies, torn to pieces, and cast in an abyss of dead and callous way of thinking.
Since our way of thinking has been affected we begin to operate in the results of this rejection. We often build walls around us trying to protect ourselves from feeling such pain ever again; however, while building these walls we find ourselves in the pitfalls that are associated with rejection.
The first pitfall is 1.) We develop an incorrect concept of what is supposed to be. We believe that it is God’s desire for us to be happy, but our concept of what happiness is sometimes incorrect. We think that happiness is living in a fine home, driving an expensive car, having prestige and power, and never having the devil on our backs at all. We feel that happiness is a life of trouble free living and the Bible says in Psalm 34:19 “Many are the afflictions of the righteous” and in 1 Peter 3:14 “Happy is the man that suffer for righteousness”. Happiness is not based on good things only, but since our concept of what happiness is has been incorrect we feel as though if things aren’t going a certain way that God has rejected us, because he is not operating in our expectations.