Summary: Healthy or effective communication breathes life into every relationship.


"The mouth of the righteous speaks wisdom, And his tongue talks of justice." Psalm 37:30.

Effective communication skills can be developed and experienced when our mouths are full of God’s wisdom.

"Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad." Proverbs 12:25.

A good word shared or spoken by someone can lift up another person who is suffering. In other words, good communication involves being aware of the struggles of others and helping to ease their pains. The Lord wants us to build each other up, speaking words of life and affirmation over one another, and bad language will never accomplish that. As a matter of fact, it creates negative labels and responses in the hearer, and it can actually destroy communication between individuals. We should be a godly example to everyone around us.

"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver." Proverbs 25:11.

Words do not only lift up and encourage others, but they have value. They can be precious and so meaningful when spoken at the right moment.

"The words of a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but the lips of a fool shall swallow him up;" Ecclesiastes 10:12.

Wise and kind words are of great benefit on every occasion, and they will even grant us favour.

"But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth." Colossians 3:8.

We must put away anything from our mouth that is not good. These words will tear down and destroy relationships and people, so the Lord forbids us from expressing ourselves in these ways.

One of the most significant purposes of communication is to solve problems and build relationships. It is the greatest factor in building and strengthening marriages. Communication breathes life into every relationship.


According to the Oxford Online Dictionary: Communication is the activity or process of expressing ideas and feelings or giving information. In essence, communication is giving and receiving messages. Everything that we do or say sends a message. There is verbal and non verbal communication. The tone of your voice, body language, and facial expressions are communicating a message. Communication is the art of passing across news, information, feeling or messages. It can build a marriage, church, ministry, business, or friendship. If we say the wrong things we produce contention. Communication is a building block of any successful relationship.

Every troubled relationship is a sign of communication problem. Without proper communication conflict intensifies, and relationships decline and eventually die. Parents and children must daily engage in healthy communication. Husbands and wives must communicate effectively. In the church, community, or workplace, one of the most important skills to possess is good communication. Without a healthy communication, a marriage or any relationship in the church, the workplace, or anywhere else can never be productive.


Effectiveness is the capability of producing a desired result or the ability to produce desired output. A communication is said to be effective when all the parties involved, attach the same meanings to the message and listen carefully to what have been said and make the sender feel heard and understood. It is a communication between two or more people in which the intended or deliberate message is successfully delivered, received and understood. The ability to communicate effectively with clients and colleagues is essential. To communicate well is to understand, and be understood. Effective communication skills help you absorb information and express your ideas in a clear, concise and meaningful way. Being able to deliver messages clearly and understand other people means work can be completed more effectively. A poorly delivered information or message may result in misunderstanding, frustration and in some cases separation.

There is so much frustration in relationship because of failure to effectively communicate. Misunderstandings can be avoided when there is effective communication. Studies show that couples who communicate frequently have a more fulfilling relationship. Intimacy is one of the signs of effective communication. Intimacy is closeness. When there is no intimacy, a gap is created, and when a gap is created, the enemy is given the chance to come in. The more you communicate, the closer you become. The more you communicate the more familiar you become with each other. The more you communicate the more you know each other better. When there's effective communication love is stirs up. Good communication requires action, discipline, and patience.


1. Have a daily relationship with God.

Relationship is being with someone. It is about communication. When we have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, life gets exciting because He stirs up a passion inside us to love people. But a true loving relationship with God does not happen overnight. It’s a process that takes time to grow and develop.

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Mercy Mumbi

commented on Mar 5, 2020

Amen Amen Amen. In deed Lord, give me the wisdom to choose my words wisely, in Jesus name.

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