Summary: Today we’re going to consider the nature of the real you, beneath the surface.
The Real You
Series: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
Brad Bailey – January 22, 2012
Who are you?
I realize that is a question that defies any simple answer… but it does raise the challenge of what might be involved in responding.
Today we’re going to consider the nature of the real you.
Last week we began our series entitled: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.
We began by considering how we can face the same tragedy as the Titanic….created with great pride and potential…we keep the party looking good on the upper deck…while below the surface… there is damage… and danger. Like the Titanic…there are warnings if we are willing to listen. This series is an opportunity to slow down and listen... and to look beneath the surface.
We all have a large part of who we are that is below the surface of our lives…. far more than we likely are even aware of.
From the moment we began to experience the world around us… it has never been fully safe to be alive. Our parents may have loved us deeply…but no parents love is perfectly unconditional. Every human life has there own insecurities and needs.
• Many of us know that there is a lot of good longings got quenched… or withdrawn… or misguided.
• We may have felt that to really be acceptable… we needed to have been a better student… be married… proved ourselves in a different career.
• We may have felt that we must not have been valuable enough for our parents to stay together.
• We may have felt certain feelings weren’t accepted or safe…and we may have tried to cut them off…. or bury them. We bury them in guilt…in shame… in fear. The problem of course is that most of what we bury….. we bury alive…deep perhaps…but alive. So much of our inner life… our hearts…are trying not to be who we are.
We all develop an upper and lower deck… the seen and unseen… the presented self and the protected self….the outside of the cup and the inside of the cup…the outer life and the inner life.
To become spiritually healthy involves becoming real…authentic.
And knowing our real selves is what we will consider this morning.
The idea of getting to know our true selves may strike us as a fairly common part of our modern culture. The recent decades seemed marked by the phrases such as ‘getting in touch with myself’… ‘you gotta find yourself… ‘gotta be true to yourself’… and of course you ‘gotta have it your way.’
Depending on what is involved in such pursuits… they may reflect something of what it means to become emotionally healthy as Jesus was… but it’s important that we grasp the difference from what can be simply a self centered pursuit. It is VITAL that we get a hold of the difference between the spiritual maturity of healthy self-awareness and the potentially spiritually stunting nature of self-absorption… that seems to be both prevalent if not problematic today.