Summary: Leah is a type of woman which no man seems to wants. She was able to overcome the debilitating reputation of not being wanted. I want us to take a good look at her because clearly here was a woman who was able to live thru the degrading experience of bein
James Walker, in his book “Husbands Who Won’t Lead & Wives Who Won’t Follow”, wrote: “Deep within each man and women is a common longing: the desire to find comfort, companionship, and fulfillment.” I concur with that statement. For all of us, regardless of sex or age, want to be loved, accepted and affirmed. For the most part, most of us at some point in our pilgrimage here on planet Earth have/shall experienced the awful ache of not being wanted in various ways. As a matter of fact, it affects us all.
We hunger for an unconditional love-affair not based on lust but on love; we long for an unqualified acceptance not based on our perfect performance nor on what has been done lately for the other party; and we crave an unreserved affirmation not based on merit but on mercy. We all desire to find comfort, companionship and fulfillment.
But the scary part about reality is that there are scores of human personalities who are just not wanted. None wants to offer them, comfort, companionship or fulfillment. None offers them an unconditional love affair, an unqualified acceptance or an unreserved affirmation. The sad and scary truth is that there are people whom no one wants.
And I really don’t have to labor this fact long because you know people who live a lonely, isolated existence. You have heard of, seen or known children whom no couple wanted to adopt, and so they spent their entire childhood in the foster care system. You’ve observed scores of homeless individuals whom no one wants to help; many in prison who have been written off an unredeemable. So I need not argue that fact. You will concede that fact with me.
And so our Text forces us to face this fact again. It introduces us to a woman whom no man wanted. Her name is Leah: WEARIED, TIRED, EXHAUSTED. Leah is a type of woman which no man seems to wants. She was able to overcome the debilitating reputation of not being wanted. I want us to take a good look at her because clearly here was a woman who was able to live thru the degrading experience of being not wanted by any man. Although she was often tempted to retreat into pity-parties and isolationism, yet she remained true to who she was and had the inner strength of expectation to wait on God.
What then are some of the Characteristics of the Woman whom most men do not want? This Text give Three Clear Characteristics of the kind of Woman most men do not want, and I will share them with you.
I. The First Characteristic here revealed about THE WOMAN MOST MEN DO NOT WANT IS THAT OF BEING BEAUTY CHALLENGED.
Verse 17 says: “Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favored.” The word tender eyed in Hebrew means weak eyed, a turning eye, even crossed eyed. So Leah had a problem with her sight; the disfigurement of her eyes made her face unappealing. And this is high lighted by the contrasting fact that Rachel was beautiful and well favored. And so the suggestion is Rachel was beautiful and shapely but Leah was Beauty Challenged, Unattractive, Not Pleasant to Look Upon. We would say that she was Ugly.