Summary: How to fan the smoldering embers into passionate flames in any relationship.
13, January 2002
Dakota Community Church
Turning Up The Heat
This week I want to talk about how to go from smoldering embers to roaring flames of passion.
These will work in any relationship, with God or with your spouse.
Five ways to turn up the fire of passion:
35Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.
1. SET ASIDE SOME SPECIAL TIME.
2 Listen to my cry for help, my King and my God, for to you I pray. 3 In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.
John Maxwell said, “The number one characteristic of unsuccessful people is that they waste time.”
How often are you busy:
- Watching TV
- Playing computer games
- Window shopping
- Doing crosswords, reading daily news junk, staring out the window?
Do you want your relationship to cool off? – Don’t spend any time on it.
What matters in life and for eternity if not your wife and kids?
What have you always wanted to be?
- A great husband?
- An awesome father?
- A couch potato?
- A game boy champ?
Spend your time accordingly!
2. LIMIT YOURSELF TO LOVING WORDS.
Bridle your tongue. – The power of life and death is in the tongue.
14 May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.
To God: words of worship
To your wife: love letters
To your children: words of encouragement
Want things to heat up? – Sweeten your words about and to Him
Want things to cool off? – Speak every nasty one liner that pops into your head.
Hey why not make it your job to change your man/woman into who you think they should be? That always works!
Taken from the tomb of a Bishop in Westminster Abbey 1100 A.D.:
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits I dreamed of changing the world.
As I grew older and wiser and realized the world would not change I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country: but it too seemed immovable.
As I grew into my twilight years I settled on changing only my family and those closest to me, but alas they would have none of it.
Now as I lay on my deathbed I suddenly realize that if I had only changed myself first, then by example I could perhaps have changed my family, and from their inspiration and encouragement to me I would have been better able to help my country and from there I may even have been able to change the world.
3. DO SOME UNEXPECTED GIFT GIVING.
29 ascribe to the LORD the glory due his name. Bring an offering and come before him; worship the LORD in the splendor of his holiness.
Our passion and giving are connected.
The tithe is like a birthday or Christmas gift – expected.
(Things could get really cold if you don’t bother.)
Remember how things were in the early days of your relationship.
- Flowers, teddy bears, chocolates
- Tithes, offerings, missions, etc.
Want to turn up the heat of passion?
Show up with a surprise gift!