Summary: The Bible has a lot to say about how men and women are designed, about relationships, how they break down, and how to keep them going. Student Ministry PowerPoint Format
[What a Girl Wants]
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[What a Girl Wants]
Slide graphic: picture of girl sitting by guy, smiling
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)
We talked last week about what guys want. Do you remember what it was? Respect. According to the Bible, men were created to serve, and to find fulfillment in the things they do. In Genesis, Adam was created and placed in the garden “to work it and take care of it” (Genesis 2:15). When Adam and Eve sinned, God described how Adam’s life would be in the fallen world:
17To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ’You must not eat of it,’ Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return." (Genesis 3:17-19)
In the fallen world, men will be frustrated and unfulfilled in their work – they will not succeed in doing what they were designed to do – they will not find fullfilment. We talked about how women must understand that men are designed to be driven to accomplish things, and women need to be aware that “respect for their accomplishments” is the fuel that men run on. This is not some modern psychoanalytical theory – this is taken straight from the Bible – the Holy, Living Word of God.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. (1 Peter 3:1-2 NASB)
Last week, we hammered the ladies pretty hard about the Biblical principle of giving unconditional respect to husbands. The guys got to sit back and grin.
This week, we’re going to turn the tables. We are going to talk about “What a girl wants.” The Bible clearly tells us men and women were designed differently, which leads to different needs. What were women designed to need? Why? In a perfect Biblical relationship between a man and a woman, how should the man act toward the woman?
Dave Barry, the newspaper columnist, writes about what women want: “To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held.” Then he writes about what men want: “Tickets for the World Series.”
[Women are the Crown of Creation]
Slide graphic: Jesus sitting with the woman at the well.
Think about the Genesis Chapter one description of Creation. First the light and darkness, the water, dry land, plants, animals, and finally, the crown of creation, he created man. A lot of people think that Adam was created on the sixth day, then God took Saturday off, and Eve was created some time later as an afterthought. Not True. On the sixth day God created man in his own image (they had the same character as God) – male and female created he them. And God told “them”, not him, to subdue the earth and rule over it - together.
Chapter two of Genesis goes back to that sixth day and gives more detail. It lets us know that after creating the void, then the seas, then the land, then building up to plants and animals, God capped it off by creating Adam. Right? God created Adam and put him in the garden to work it and care for it. God made Adam in the image of himself. Men were designed to reveal the Character of God – a strength that serves.
After each new creation, God said “it is good”, right? And now Adam is here, the man everything has been building up to. Job done.
No, the Bible tells us that God looked at Adam and said, for the first time in the creation account, “this is not good.” Something was missing. There was still one step more on this journey of creation. God made Eve. Still on the sixth day, here. He made her also in his own image, to reveal God’s character in a different way. He created Adam and Eve different – male and female created he them, each unique, but each revealing the character of God in a special way. Together, the two would become whole.