Summary: It’s all about what a psalmist said what is God’s heart about what kind of a wife you should be... And, please, feel free to read my "What Is A Family Should Be..."
WHAT A WIFE SHOULD BE…
Psalms 128:3, “Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house.”
From this passage we can learn two things about a wife. First, a wife like a FRUITFUL vine. Not just as a vine, but as a fruitful vine. All the family members must get something from you, ladies! This all talks about the wife’s CHARACTERISTIC, what must you do, what must you act.
Second, a wife must be in the very heart of a house. This talks about wife’s FUNCTION. Everything in this all world have a purpose, and so is a wife in her house. Most men will make their wives as a LADY in the living room, a CHEF in their kitchen, and a WHORE in the bed room (I quote this from the late Ed Cole sayings). All these happened just because they do not know what are their purpose, and because of that they can’t function right in the family.
I. FRUITFUL VINE, the characteristic of a wife.
1. Openness, Songs 2:10-15
“10 My lover spoke and said to me, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me.
11 See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone.
12 Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.
Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me."
14 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.
15 Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.”
The vineyard’s #1 enemy is the [little] foxes. Little foxes sometimes can be a small mistake that your husband, or children, did in the past. We always try to deal with big problems, but we just ignore the small problems. And we think that’s OK, time will heals the wound. You just make a biggest mistake in your life, by letting one problem gone without a solution. Time will not heal the wound, and if it does, it will leave a scar deep in your heart, or one of your family’s.
But, the bible taught us that we can’t catch with this little foxes, if you as a wife still “in the hiding places”. Come on! Don’t built a wall! “Show your face, let me hear your voice!”, in other words, “Face it, don’t let it go without a good solution, even how much pain you feel. That’s better than ruin your family in the future. Make a communication! Don’t hide something, be open-minded.”
2. Praised because of her own [good] works, Proverbs 31:30-31
“30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”
Husbands, be a man! We need to praise our wife as many as possible. They just loved it. NO! They enjoy every moment of it! Ladies, you need to tell your husband (I know you got 1001 ways to show it to your husband), that you loved to be praise. But, ladies, let you be praise not just because of your beauty, but more of because of your work.
“a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” Rev Charles Nieman once said, “The Fear of the Lord is [to live in] a deep and reverent sense of accountability to God and Jesus.” Proverbs 31 is not there to make you suffer, or felt like a servant. No, Proverbs 31 is something that you must do as a wife to all the members of your family, IN THE SAME MANNER AS YOU DO TO GOD. Being a wife is being a servant of God in the midst of your household. Be a good and faithful steward of God!
3. Justice and righteousness, Isaiah 5:7
“7 The vineyard of the LORD Almighty
is the house of Israel, and the men of Judah are the garden of his delight.
And he looked for justice, but saw bloodshed;
for righteousness, but heard cries of distress.”
In God’s vineyard, He always looking for 2 things, justice and righteousness. It is important for a wife to produce these things in her family. She needs to teach her sons and daughters to live in justice and righteousness; She needs to guard her husband to walk on the path of justice and righteousness in his work and relationship with his friends; and she needs to give an example how to live in the justice and righteousness.