Summary: This messages looks at what Christian women really want from Christian men.
What Women Wished Men Knew About Women
This morning we begin a brand new series here at Living Faith called, Family Matters. Over the next few weeks we will look at the secrets to getting along, God’s plan for sex, What men wished women knew about men, and the importance of your family name.
But this morning we are going to ask another question.
Mel Gibson played a character in a movie a few years ago that embodied the dream of every man. From the smallest boy who has just discovered that girls and not all uchy, to the patriarchal grandfather rocking away his retirement years on the front porch, we all daydream of some day knowing what women what.
Mel Gibson’s character was an advertising executive. He was trying to write ads for women’s produces. To better understand women, he in his bathroom where he has put on a pair of pantyhose and smeared hair removal wax on his legs. When he rips the dried wax off, hair and all, he losses his balance and falls into a tub of water along with the hair dryer he is using. He is electrocuted. The result of his electrifying experience is the supernatural ability to hear the thoughts of the opposite sex.
Now, I have not been electrocuted and I do not have the supernatural ability to read women’s minds so I stand before fearfully attempting to suggest a few things I have heard from women over the years as their pastor.
In case you women did not know it, you are hard for us men to read. The best we can do is guess at what you want, and hope and pray we hit it half the time.
It seems at times as if you are speaking a foreign language. I can understand why John Gray would conclude Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. So you can see why it is a fearful prospect to stand up here, a man, and presume to know what Women what.
But presumptuous as it is, here goes, this morning I would to (Swallow hard) suggest what women wish men knew about women.
If we could read women’s thoughts what would they be thinking.
First I would suggest women would say to men, Don’t be too busy to listen.
19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry
William Barclay said, There are few wise men who have not been impressed by the dangers of being too quick to speak and too unwilling to listen.
Men do not get so busy you fail to listen. Often all you wife needs is a listening ear. I heard a young lady say recently, “We don’t need for you to fix all our problems; we just want you to listen.”
The classical writer Zeno said, “We have two ears but only one mouth, that we may hear more and speak less.” When Demonax was asked how a man might rule best, he answered, “Without anger, speaking little, and listening much.” The tribute was once paid to a great linguist that he could be silent in seven different languages. Many of us would do well to listen more and to speak less.
Men, listening is hard work. To listen you must focus on the person speaking. Too often our mind are so filled with the cares of the day we do not really listen to our wives.
But John Gray said, “As a marriage counselor the number one complaint he hears from women who come to his office is, ‘My husband does not listen to me.’”
The first thing women would want men to know is always take the time to listen.
Second. I would suggest women would say to men, “Don’t be too arrogant to learn.”
Solomon warns us.
10 Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.
How easy it is to think we know everything just because we know some things. Have you ever been around someone who thinks he or she knows it all? You begin to resent them and dread the next time you have to meet them.
I was in a board with such a fellow in a former church. At the meeting we had to make a decision about an outreach event. This man and his wife were at the meeting. The wife began to explain some facts about the planned event we did not know. Her hubby dismissed what she was saying with a wave of his hand, and said, “I have already made up my mind about this, don’t go confusing the issue with more facts.”
The person sitting next to me whispered, “I would hate to be his wife.”