Summary: Marriage is hard work.
God Speaks on Marriage Series
What Would God Say to Ryan and Trista About Marriage?
February 15, 2004 FBC, Chester Mike Fogerson, Speaker
In December of last year, millions of people tuned into the The Bachelorette, Trista Rehn , a 29 year old pediatric physical therapist from Florida, get married to Ryan Sutter, a fireman from Colorado.
A ABC popped the bill for their over the top wedding.
a Married in Rancho Mirage, Palm Springs, CA.
b 30,000 roses were imported from Ecuador. (Over $1 million)
c Trista’s gown $25,000, shoes $50,000
d The reception featured food flown in from 14 different countries, 180 bottles of champagne, 600 bottles of wine, 1,500 pounds of chocolate, 200 lbs. of shrimp, lobster & crab.
e One of the biggest names in country music, Brad Paisley serenaded them.
B What a show! What would God have to say to Ryan & Trista? Text: 1 Cor. 7.3-5
Paul was writing from Ephesus to the Corinthian believers.
*Corinth was a town that was dwarfed by a mountian called the Acropolis. On top of that mountain was the temple of Aphrodite. Sex was a religion, temple prostitutes.
*In the Roman world, wives were seen as slaved. Men had more than one wife. One would take care of the living area, cook, clean clothes. Sex was secondary because the man went up to the temple where the really good look girls were kept.
1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
*Paul is actually elevating marriage to its proper genesis, found in Genesis!
*Paul is not anti-marriage! Anti-Sex! There is biblical support that Paul himself was married.
7 Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.
8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.
1 Cor 7:7-8 (NASB) Great possibility Paul was a widow!!!
10 "And this is just what I did in Jerusalem; not only did I lock up many of the saints in prisons, having received authority from the chief priests, but also when they were being put to death I cast my vote against them. Acts 26:10 (NASB) Paul was a member of the Sanhedrin. ONLY married men could be on the Sanhedrin. Paul had to have been married to vote on the Sanhedrin.
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Cor 7:1-5 (NASB)
I The first aspect that must be developed in order to build toward having a godly marriage is....relational.
Paul gave two areas of relational responsibilities to those who were married:
A Supportive 3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 1 Cor 7:3 (NASB)
a Sexual faithfulness
b Make her happy
5 "When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken. Deut 24:5
c Be a godly leader
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. Eph 5:23 (NASB)
d Stay with her
23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." 24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Gen 2:23-24 (NASB)
e Love her
2 That is how husbands should treat their wives, loving them as parts of themselves. For since a man and his wife are now one, a man is really doing himself a favor and loving himself when he loves his wife! Eph 5:28 (TLB)
f Show her honor
7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 (NASB)