Summary: When conflicts arise, ask these two questions: What is at stake, and what is in your heart?

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Two men who lived in a small village got into a terrible dispute that they could not resolve. So they decided to talk to the town sage.

The first man went to the wise man's home and told his version of what happened. When he finished, the sage said, "You're absolutely right."

The next night, the second man called on the sage and told his side of the story. The wise man responded, "You're absolutely right."

Afterward, the sage's wife, hearing all these, scolded her husband. "Those men told you two different stories and you told them they were absolutely right. That's impossible - they can't both be absolutely right."

The sage turned to his wife and said, "You're absolutely right."

Disagreements and conflicts are complicated. If they are simple, everyone would have made sense of the disputes. There won’t be conflicts to start with.

• There are however some things we can take note of, when a disagreement happens, so that we can navigate through it without making it worst.

• We are going to look at an unnecessary conflict in Judges 12. I hope we can see the folly of it and learn from it today. [Read Judges 12:1-7]

I will suggest we ask ourselves TWO questions when a disagreement arises.


The author wraps up the aftermath of Jephthah’s great victory against the Ammonites, by recounting to us a very sad event in their history.

• The men of Ephraim made an uncalled-for accusation against Jephthah: “Why did you go to fight the Ammonites without calling us to go with you?” (12:1)

• Jephthah tried to set the record straight. “I did. I called but no one responded, including you. So I risked my life and fought the Ammonites myself. And the Lord gave me victory!”

“Now why have you come up today to fight me?” (12:3) Why are you so unhappy? That’s the million-dollar question.

• WHY are you picking a fight with me? The war is over. Our enemy has been defeated. We’ve gotten our freedom. WHAT IS AT STAKE HERE?

• The Ephraimites were so unhappy that they wanted to burn down Jephthah’s house and kill his entire family.

All this sounded ridiculous to us. Conflicts usually look senseless to onlookers, but not to the conflicting parties.

• The Ephraimites have forgotten who their real enemy is; who are they really fighting against.

• To the question, what is at stake? Frankly, nothing. The Ephraimites needs to REMEMBER WHO THEIR REAL ENEMY IS.

• What are you fighting for? Is it worth fighting for it? Distinguish between WHAT and WHO are you fighting against.

If we take a step back and look at the big picture, both parties are on the same side.

• One participated in the war, the other did not, but God gave the victory.

• They had a common and only ONE enemy, and that enemy had been defeated.

• The war was successful and the only thing left to do is to celebrate the freedom they’ve gotten.

So what is really at stake? Nothing is at stake.

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