Summary: God loves me too much to save me from all of my struggles
Most of you are probably familiar with the term “helicopter parent”. But just in case you aren’t, this short video does a pretty good job of showing what that term means.
[Show “Copter Mommy” video]
Although helicopter parenting might seem harmless, it seems like we are seeing its impact more and more in our culture. This week I read an article by Indiana University psychologist Chris Meno who described how over-involved “helicopter parenting” is taking a toll on college students who are experiencing high levels of anxiety and even depression because they are unable to function independently of their parents.
Meno writes about parents who still treat their college-age children to the same full service parenting they have implemented since birth – paying bills, doing laundry, and even contacting professors about their child’s exams or insisting that a test be re-graded. In commenting on the high levels of anxiety and depression among these students Meno writes:
When children aren’t given the space to struggle through things on their own, they don’t learn to problem-solve very well. They don’t learn to be confident in their abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem. The problem with never having to struggle is that you never experience failure and can develop an overwhelming fear of failure and disappointing others.
At this point I know a lot of you are probably wondering what any of this has to do with our study in the book of Romans. Here’s how it fits. I think a lot of us have been misled into believing that God is a “helicopter God” – that He is constantly hovering over us to make sure that we don’t get hurt or that we don’t experience troubles in our lives.
Unfortunately that distorted view of how God treats His children has often been perpetuated by those who claim to be Christians. Certainly those who preach a “health and prosperity” gospel are guilty of furthering the idea of a God who only brings happiness and comfort to His children. But even within more orthodox Biblical Christianity we have sometimes been guilty of attributing certain sayings to the Bible which just aren’t there. For instance, how many times have you heard someone say something like this?
God will never give you more than you can handle.
The problem with that saying is that it’s not in the Bible. In fact, as we’ll see this morning, not only are those words not in the Bible, we can’t even find that concept in the pages of Scripture. About the closest that the Bible gets to that idea is in 1 Corinthians 10:13 where we are promised that we won’t be tempted beyond what we can bear and that God will always provide a way of escape from that temptation.
But God never promises to protect us from or to remove us from the struggles in life. In fact, as we’ll see this morning…
God loves me too much to
save me from all of my struggles