No matter the role you are leading in you are going to face criticism. Some criticism is good-it is constructive, truthful, and has good intentions. Relish this kind of criticism in your ministry.
Some criticism is unequivocally bad criticism. It is destructive, not based 100% in truth, and is based in bad intentions. Prepare yourself for this kind of criticism.
Whether it is a critique of your sermon 5 minutes after you preached it, or a critique of an event 5 minutes after you lead it, or a personal attack on you, your family, or your church this criticism can pull us into the depths of despair.
But there are positive ways we can respond to negative criticism. I believe responding in these ways can help anyone relieve the burden caused by unwanted and bad criticism as well as help and minister to those who are broken and dishing out this bad criticism.
Here are 3 positive ways to respond to negative criticism:
Find the Hidden Truth
This is a difficult task, but much criticism, yes even destructive criticism can be traced to a constructive or truthful nugget of information. Maybe the criticism was “Pastor your sermon would have been so much better if it was 15 minutes shorter.” Now, there is nothing constructive about this criticism 5 minutes after you preached the sermon, but maybe the nugget of truth is you need to find a way to cut some fluff from your sermon.
Find the Broken Person
A lot of destructive criticism comes from a broken and toxic person. Maybe they are broken because they are toxic-or maybe they are toxic because they are broken. Either way extend grace in situations of unwanted and bad criticism.
Defend Yourself… Kindly
Maybe you casually brush off bad criticism and never confront those who do it to you. This might not be the best path to take. Obviously, a shouting match or heated discussion in the foyer right after service might not be the best place to defend yourself. But, maybe offer to take the person to lunch or offer them 30 minutes on Tuesday to discuss their criticism, why it hurts, and why it is unnecessary.
Bad criticism is something none of us want. It is frustrating, disheartening, and discouraging. But in the bad criticism we can find a way to help ourselves and help the person giving the bad criticism.
What do you think?