Summary: The majority of arguments between husbands and wives Have to do with disagreements over who is in charge of what in the relationship.
A Fireproof way for marriages?
Pastor Allan Kircher
Shell Point Baptist church
In Successful Marriages, Spouses give up their rights for one another
wives give respect to their husbands
husbands give love their wives
spouses give Christ their reverence
First of two sermons/what I call the M & M’s of stress/life today.
• Marriage and money.
• My plan for these messages is to focus on what the Bible says about these two top SOURCES of stress in life.
• Next week we will look at the frustration that comes with trying to manage our money.
Now some of you may wonder, "What does marriage have to do with stress?"
Well, if you are one of those "wonder-ers"-then you must be single because spouses who have been together any length of time will tell you that tension is part and parcel of being married.
Two living, breathing, sinful people are going to have some level of strain in their relationship.
o The problem these days is
o husbands and wives have forgotten how to deal with this inevitable conflict
o So more and more couples experience little if any joy in their marriage.
Now before we go any farther I want to point out that this particular text can be very difficult to understand.
In fact/verses/Ephesians 5 have caused so much disagreement that many people ignore them all together.
o Most pastors steer clear of this text, fearing the conflict it may cause in their churches.
o Probably because that six-letter word “Submit” is one of the most disliked, and divisive words in the Bible.
But I don't want us here at Shell Point to do that
To steer clear of it
We HAVE to come to a proper understanding of this troublesome word if our marriages are to bring us the joy God intends.
We simply must understand this word if we are to understand His blueprint!
You see, I have found that most of the problems in marriage can be traced to one thing: POWER.
The majority of arguments between husbands and wives
Have to do with disagreements over who is in charge of what in the relationship.
Part 2 of 12 Fireproof opening argument
And, more often than not husbands and wives don't resolve this issue properly
• This causes a power imbalance in their marriage.
• So what happens when power/authority are out of whack?
1. First we need/discuss/certainly/differences between men/women.
o I mean you have noticed that men and women are different?
These differences are intended by our Creator to be complimentary.
They bring balance/depth/excitement to any marriage relationship.
The fact is that when we truly UNDERSTAND each other—we are better TOGETHER than we are ALONE.
I am not talking about just physical differences
I am talking/how different men/women/relationally/emotionally
o We process things differently
o We think differently
o We can even experience the same situation and yet see it so totally different.
He said/she said clip
o Have you ever been there?