Summary: A boarder has no commitment and merely pays rent to have a place to hang his hat for awhile. A functional family member is committed, caring and contributes to the well being of the family. Which are you in relation to God's family?
Are You Part of the Family or Just a Boarder?
A boarder has no commitment and merely pays rent to have a place to hang his hat for awhile. A functional family member is committed, caring and contributes to the well being of the family. Which are you in relation to God's family?
I. Becoming a part of the family is by the new-birth
A. We are all the offspring of God in the sense that we are His products of the creative work of God. But all men are not the children of God in a personal sense as a father with a son. Simply put not everyone who claims to be a child of God is a child of God.
C. John 1:12-13 (quickview)  “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: 13 Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”
D. John Piper relates that "Receiving Jesus means taking Jesus into your life for what He is. It does not mean a kind of peaceful co-existence with a Christ who makes no claims — as though He can stay in the house as long as he doesn't play his music so loud." – John Piper, How to Become a Child of God, December 17, 1989
II. Being a functional family member means being committed
A. In a dysfunctional family everyone does their own thing. There is no commitment to other family members. However, in a functional family each family member has a sense of commitment to the family.
B. Husband and wife are committed to pursuing what is best for the other person.
1. Ephesians 5:22-33 (quickview)  “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
2. Christ desires what is best for us – His commitment to us took Him to the cross to die for us and to provide us with the Holy Spirit to direct our path through life.