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Summary: A message to bring hope to those who are in difficult marriages and those who have been touched by the pain of divorce.

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DDealing with Divorce

June 28, 2009

Mark 10:2-12

Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife?”3 Jesus answered them with a question: “What did Moses say in the law about divorce?”4 “Well, he permitted it,” they replied. “He said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.” 5 But Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts.6 But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation.7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, 8 and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one,9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again.11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her.12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:2-12 (NLT)

INTRODUCTION:

Much prayer has gone into the preparation of this sermon. More than most. Because the subject of divorce is a painful reality that has probably touched every person in this room in one way or another. It is a sensitive and painful issue, which calls for a careful balance between truth-telling and compassion. As lawyers often urge their juries, I hope you will listen to all of the evidence before you reach a conclusion.

“Reach down from Heaven and rescue me; deliver me from deep waters.” Psalm 144:11

Will you pray with me now?

"Lord, as we come to your Word, we pray that you will open our hearts and our minds, that we may understand your will, and live in your love. For we pray in the name of Jesus our redeemer. Amen."

A group of Pharisees came to Jesus, Mark says, to trap him, and asked what sounded like a simple question: "Is if lawful for a man to divorce his wife, for any and every reason?"

And just by asking, they placed Jesus in a very difficult spot. (I can relate).

On the one hand, there was Herod the Tetrarch. This was a different Herod from the one who tried to kill Jesus at his birth. What we need to know about this Herod is that he had married his sister-in-law, Herodias.

Now, marriage to your brother’s wife, while your brother was still living, was explicitly forbidden by Mosaic law.

You might remember that John the Baptist, never one for subtlety, went to Herod and told him this. And, as you know, John was beheaded for his trouble. Herod did not want to know what God thought of his adultery.

So, if Jesus denounced divorce, he risked the wrath of Herod.

On the other hand, if Jesus said that divorce was ok, he would seem to take away his credibility as a moral teacher.

Tough subject. Still tough today.

Even within the church, the discussion has been going on for centuries.

I. HISTORY

The law of God in Deuteronomy 24:1 describes divorce this way: "If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, (he may) write her a certificate of divorce, give it to her and send her from his house..."


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Douglas Dean

commented on Sep 16, 2014

Thank you for your message on the difficult subject of divorce. . The message ha been given a 5 star rating and rightly so. However ask you a question have you ever suffered the pain and grieve of losing your wife in death. I have conducted many funerals but ntil I suffered grief I did not know what it was . So now I can fully understand and grieve with that person. What is the point I'm trying to make. It is that unless you have been through it you cannot fully understand what it is all about. Since then I married a beautiful Christian lady who gave me a beautiful son but then was unfaithful and is living with another man. My pain and broken heart of losing her was huge. God brought me through that pain to overcome it . I still have pain of only having 50 with my son/. Now I have forgiven her and have showed kindness to the man she is with. We haven't divorced because I have forgiven her hoping she may come back However during this time I experienced loneliness for first time ever . it was very painful. so I pray to find another lady . You said if one finds another lady in this situation it is for pure lust and not acceptable to God. Here is where I make my point unless you have been through it you cannot possibly know. I will still think and pray whether to divorce even though scripture Jesus said you can apply this eception rule. My dilemma is do I divorce her even though I still love her or do i stay on my own and wait to see if she will return . Legally and scripture suggest I can divorce her or wait till the point of no return when I feel I can't have her back. One great blessing that I have learned is I am married to Jesus Christ and love him more that ever . to be faithful in the heavenly marriage is very very important . I am primarily a Man of God and a minister of Jesus Christ and I hope my testimony and experience is a blessing to others. Douglas Dean

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