Summary: Every home needs work! It is a good thing that there is a blueprint we can follow to build strong homes!
Pt. 4 – Working Singles
Over the last three week’s we have been handing out home work at church! The first week I gave the home work to the dads. Fight apathy, help your families make good decisions, set priorities, and establish godly boundaries or guardrails.
Then I challenged the women to fight misalignment. To learn that submit isn’t a bad concept, but one that brings the miraculous to bear. Told our women to understand their men, themselves and to offer support! Then we went into Proverbs 31 to what traits a godly woman processes.
Then last week we dealt with families. Remember God sees us as families. We must fight nearsightedness. We can’t become so focused on now and forget to work towards tomorrow. It is important for us to remember everything flows down. You have to get something in you before you can get it in them. How has your home sounded this week? Working families sound different. You cannot escape the Word. We shroud or homes in the Word so our family thinks and lives according to the Word.
So today I want to wrap up this series up by talking about working singles. Scripture is clear that being single is not a curse or the worst thing that can happen to someone even though our society seems to think it is! Listen to what Jesus has to say about being single.
Text: Matthew 19:11-12
11-12But Jesus said, "Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn't for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked—or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it."
And then Paul weighs in and says,
32-35I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.
1. Singles’ #1 enemy is complexity!
I know of no one who has prayed, sought God and actually found the mate that they dreamed of that would trade their married life for single life again. However, I also know of no one regardless of how healthy or perfect their marriage is who also wouldn’t admit that marriage complicates your life! Marriage takes a ton of energy. Marriage dominates your life or at least it will if it is a healthy marriage.
Paul weighs in and says that one of the greatest gifts of single life is simplicity! Being single allows you the opportunity to remain focused on important things. I think singles get in trouble when they confuse complexity for completion so they get into a relationship thinking it will complete them and instead their life is complicated!