Summary: Jesus, in dealing with sexual sin, did NOT make an object out of the woman involved, nor did He feel it necessary to do anything but give her space to work out her own spiritual issues. He DID determine that His aim was redemption, not shame, and He love
All these years of preaching and teaching, and no one has
ever asked me why Jesus didn’t have a wife or a girl friend.
No one has even so much as wondered out loud whether
Jesus the man felt what most men feel. Are you afraid of
that question? Or do you just suppose that, after all, since
He is God, He wouldn’t have feelings of that kind? Do you
think of Jesus as some marble statue, some stained-glass
zombie, with no hormones? Before you settle into that view,
remember that He is God poured into a human body. Flesh.
And male. Age thirty when He started His ministry. Are we
to believe that He never had any sexual feelings? Were
there no comely dark-eyed young ladies growing up in
Nazareth? Come on, folks, get real! Have you ever thought
about Jesus in love?!
Now the truth is that the gospel accounts do not show Jesus
in anything like a romantic situation. There is no kiss-and-tell
story here. You cannot stretch the rumors about Mary
Magdalene or the touchy-feely scene of the woman pouring
out ointment on His feet to make them into romantic
encounters. Don’t get into guesswork about what He might
have done during His teenage years. Don’t jump to
conclusions about whether He was a little too close to certain
men, like Peter, James, and John. The text will not support
you in that kind of guessing.
But the Bible does say that He was tempted in all points just
as we are. It says that there is nothing that we feel that He
also did not feel. However, there is an important difference.
There is a serious distinction between what Jesus did with
His feelings and what we do with ours. Jesus was in control
of Himself. Jesus did not just act out what He felt. Jesus
was tempted in all points just as we are, yet without sin.
What’s cool about Jesus is that He experienced what we
experience, but it did not take Him over. He was in charge of
Himself. He ran His life as He was called to run it, and did
not give in to the whim of the moment. What’s cool about
Jesus? I submit to you that the ultimate “cool” is the ability to
do what is right, even when you are confronted with
temptation. “Cool” is not slouching on a street corner, half-
dressed, trying to get lucky. Cool is being who you are
called to be.
I want to speak to you today about Jesus in love. I ask you
to focus with me on what Jesus did about a woman whose
mistake was perfectly obvious. The Bible tells us that she
had been caught in the very act of adultery. Somebody had
evidence of her sin, and brought her to Jesus for judgment.
“Here, Jesus. This woman is a sinner. By the law of Moses
she should be stoned to death. Now what do you say? Do
you agree with Moses? How can you not agree with God’s
great lawgiver? So if you do, Jesus, well, shall we go and
pelt this daughter of Israel with rocks?”
Even today there are plenty of folks who live out their
sexuality in irresponsible ways. And still today there are
plenty of other folks who want to punish. So I invite you
today to consider this story and to examine with me two
sides of the equation: what Jesus did NOT do and what
Jesus DID do. What’s cool about Jesus in love? He loved
this woman and He loved her accusers. He loved Himself
too. And so what’s cool about Jesus is that He kept Himself
in control, under the will of God, in charge of His own life.
Jesus was in love. But it was not what pop idols call love. It
First, let’s notice a couple of things about what Jesus
did NOT do. What mistakes did Jesus avoid, even though
Jesus was in love?
First, Jesus in love did not treat this woman as an object
for His own pleasure. He did not make of her a thing to be
toyed with. Jesus in love did not look at her as simply a tool
for self-indulgence. Jesus looked at her and saw a child of
God, a creation of the Most High. Jesus saw someone to be
There is a huge difference between being in love and being
in lust! Much of the time when our hormones kick in, we
convince ourselves that we are in love, but actually we are in
lust. We want. We want for the moment’s pleasure. Jesus
taught that not only is sex outside of marriage wrong, but that
when we look at others with selfish desire, with nothing more