Summary: Women learn to submit to their husbands by watching their husbands submit to God. If a husband is not submitting to God, more than likely there will be a problem of submission in his home.
Lord, How am I supposed to love this woman?
Minister Cedric Portis
Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Ephesians 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Ephesians 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Ephesians 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Ephesians 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Before I get started I want to say something about the “Sunday Sermon.”
Every sermon you hear may not apply directly to a situation that may be going on in your life, this moment but one day it might, better yet I will tell you exactly what will happen. God is going to send someone into your life that needs the knowledge that you have gained from the Sunday Sermon. Remember, you never really understand what you have learned until you can teach someone what you know. With that I want to look at 2 verses from the passage of scripture I read earlier. Verses 22 and 25.
Lets look at what Paul is saying here, now most women don’t have a problem with the second phrase of verse 22, they have no problem with submitting to the Lordship of Jesus.
But looking closer at this passage, Paul is saying that the woman is to submit herself to her husband in the same manner as she would submit herself to Jesus. Now that is a powerful level of submission. That is giving to the Husband a significant level of authority. Read verse 23/24. So that in a manner similar to the way that Christ is the head of the church, the man is to be the head of the wife. The obvious meaning of headship in the New Testament and the Greek language is to be in a position of preeminence and a position of leadership.
And what I understand this passage of scripture to mean is that the husband is to be the head of the home. This is not a license for tyranny; this is not a license to demean the woman or to treat the woman as a slave but the responsibility for final authority and for leadership in the home is vested in the husband. And if the woman resist that, she is resisting God, it is God who gives that directive.
Now there has been teaching that I have heard that men have bought into the idea that the only way that God could tell women to submit to men is if men are naturally superior to women.