Summary: Self-centeredness and the 'me first' attitude permeate our culture. But Paul points us in a different direction.
“Building Quality Relationships: With Christians – Master Submission”
Phil. 2:1-11 & Eph. 5:18-21
Michael Hernandez has written a piece called “Property Laws as Viewed by a Toddler.” Included are the following toddler laws: “If I like it, it’s mine. If it’s in my hands, it’s mine. If I can take it from you, it’s mine. If I’m doing or building something, all the pieces are mine. If it looks like it’s mine, it’s mine. If I saw it first, it’s mine. If I can see it, it’s mine. If I want it, it’s mine. If I think I can play with it better than you can, it’s mine. If I play with it long enough, it’s mine. If you are playing with something else and you put it down, it’s mine.”
Cute for toddlers – but unfortunately the self-centeredness and ‘me first’ attitude is indicative of our entire culture. The Apostle Paul, however, points us in a different direction. As we saw last week, in verse 18 of Ephesians 5 Paul encourages us to “be filled with the Spirit.” And he points out that when we are filled three things will happen. We will speak in spiritual language with each other, live with an attitude of gratitude, and will “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” It’s critical to spend some time reflecting on these words.
Let’s look, first, at THE MEANING OF SUBMISSION. Paul said, “Submit to one another…” We need to understand THE DEFINITION. To submit is to acquiesce, to subject ourselves. It is to GIVE PREFERENCE TO ANOTHER. When we come to a four way stop the rules of the road suggest an order to follow so not everyone goes at once. So we acquiesce and subject ourselves to the others at the stop and to the prescribed order. Paul is teaching that there is a prescribed order in God’s world and God’s community and its foundation is our submission to one another. Paul was familiar with the destructive nature of selfishness and individualism. He address it not only here and in his Philippian letter but in his first letter to the Corinthians as well. In fact Paul used the word submission at least 23 times in his letters. And Jesus taught his disciples about desiring to be the least and to wash others feet. So Spirit-filled people are willing to give up their own interests for the health of others. It is the opposite of self assertion and an independent spirit. It is the desire to get along with one another, being satisfied with less than one’s due, a “sweet reasonableness of attitude.” (1)
Here’s another EXPLANATION. We value the rights, gifts, needs, wishes, and feelings of others above our own. We are to PLACE OURSELVES UNDER ANOTHER. During the great Reformation in Europe, Luther and Zwingli found themselves at odds in their concern for the movements they were leading. Early one morning, Zwingli walked out on the mountains of Switzerland and a soul-stirring sight confronted him. He saw two goats making their way over a narrow path on the mountain. One was ascending the trail, the other descending. He also noticed that they must pass at a point where the trail was so narrow that there was room for only one goat. He watched to see what would happen. The animals rounded a turn in the path which brought them in full view of each other. They backed up, as though ready for a lunge, and then the most amazing thing happened. The goat on the trail below lay down in the path, while the goat above him walked over his back. The first animal then arose and continued his journey up the trail. (2) If I can put it figuratively, we are to take on a goat-like nature, giving preference to and placing ourselves under one another.