Summary: Never has a godly perspective on sex been more needed in society yet it is so rarely discussed; this talk goes over a godly perspective on sex, a discussion of several "taboo" topics and gives solid steps towards achieving victory.
Note: this is applicable to all men: young, old, married and single
Romance is God’s idea! God created the 2 sexes with a “need” for each other:
Gen.2:18 - “It is not good for the man to be alone.”
The entire book of Song of Solomon discusses romance, marriage and sex.
God created marriage and sex to be great and satisfying.
Sex is the reason each of us is alive and here tonight!
God created us with romantic desires and He wants us to fulfill those in the correct way.
Doing this our own way causes tons of problems.
Divorce, unplanned pregnancies, STDs.
There are God given rules for sex – these produce the best and most satisfying sex possible.
1Cor.6:18 – Sex is reserved for a committed marriage.
This provides the security and stability needed for a truly satisfying relational, emotional, spiritual, physical and progressive sex life.
This sex life is safe and actually contributes to the overall relationship.
Premarital sex typically pulls people apart.
Doing it His way results in the best and most sex.
Howard Hendricks said - “We should not be ashamed to talk about what God wasn’t ashamed to create.”
Christians need to start talking more about this issue.
State of our country - transgender bathroom laws, stats, etc.
Take the stand, be the light - it is needed now!!!
Men need and want to be challenged - so challenge them.
Silence, passivity and sin - sexual identity confusion, feminism, homosexuality, etc.
Men need to grow up and be men.
1 Cor.16:13 - “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.”
That requires that we begin thinking correctly about sex - the way God designed it.
Rom.12:1-2 – Be transformed by renewing your mind.
Heb.13:4 - “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
My experience after marriage - be patient, grow.
Fathers - Don’t worry about what your kids will hear today.
They’re hearing it far more from the other side already.
Getting sex-ed before they learn to balance a checkbook.
You need to start talking to them about this issue.
Pr.6:20-29 - Parents instruction protects from the wayward woman.
Resources in back.
You determine the sexual climate of your home.
Just a note: a father regulates daughter’s hormones, onset of puberty, etc.
Your sin (porn, movies, adultery, lust, turning your head, etc) affects your wife, children, your childrens’ friends and others.
Unable to lead/challenge/speak.
Spiritual umbrella has holes, you leave your home vulnerable.
Avg. 1st exposure at 8 yrs old and the largest group of viewers of Internet porn is children between ages 12 and 17 - Family Safe Media, 2005
Don’t sexualize your children.
Be careful who you let your children be around.
Be a Christ-like example and they will imitate you and vice versa.
1Tim.4:12 - Be an example in purity.
Be the covering for your home - keep the junk out!
Young men - you need to listen.
Most of what you’ve seen and heard will kill you.
(Sean Hannity says) "Most adults aren’t successful at romance", you need to learn a lot before you will be.
The best things come to those who wait.
You aren’t missing out by waiting - you’ll get so much more.
If you struggle with porn - Don’t date!!!
Don’t burn bridges, don’t push the envelope.
1 Cor.10:31 - Whatever you do - do it to glorify God.
Summit lecture series on sex worldview.
You don’t have to miss what God has for you.
God’s way is best.
God’s standards are there for our own good.
Jn.10:10 – God promises an abundant life, that includes sex.
1Cor.2:9 – “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him.”
Again, romance, marriage and sex are God’s idea - know and follow His plan.
All relationships involve attraction (Attraction is an emotion which involves admitting something is nice and beautiful compared to lust which is choosing to selfishly use, desire or gratify).
You can be attracted to a pizza or to a kitten (Affection), guys and gals as friends, your spouse (I hope you will be) and God.
You will be attracted to different individuals - attraction does not = Romance or sex.
Letting attraction lead you will get you into more trouble than you can imagine.
Attraction is a feeling, which can be good or bad depending on who is on the throne.
Attraction should never lead you; you lead it.
Decide what and who you will allow yourself to be attracted to.
Do it your way: You lose true manhood, the abundant life, freedom, fulfillment, your reputation, confidence, purity and satisfying sex that God intended for you, your wife looses the husband God intended for her, your kids loose the example and role model they so desperately need, your church, community and country loose the man God intended for them and ultimately God and eternity lose because your life calling, purpose and fruitfulness are limited and hindered. The Ripple effect of doing it your way – Guilt, shame, broken marriages and relationships and sexual frustration!