Summary: With the new law being introduced in California to ban spanking this message takes a biblical view of what many say is discipline from the "dark ages."
THE BOTTOM LINE: “To Spank or Not To Spank”
Proverbs 23:13-14 - ©Dr. Larry L. Thompson (2007)
“Don’t be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won’t kill them. 14 A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death.” Proverbs 23:13-14 (Message)
Do parents have the right to spank their child? This is the controversial issue that has been brought to light nationally this past week when a democratic lawmaker from the San Francisco Bay area proposed legislation to outlaw spanking your children in California. In California it is against the law for anyone but a parent to spank their children and now they want to remove the right from the parent saying that no spanking, by even a parent, can take place to any child under four years of age. Assemblywoman Sally Leiber has introduced a bill to outlaw spanking a child under 4 years of age in California. A CBS survey found 57% of Californians oppose this legislation; 23% favor and 11% are undecided. However, discipline, according to the scripture is not only not a violation to avoid it is a principle to be practiced.
Over the years as I have preached the family series annually I have emphasized that parents are God’s representatives to their children. Therefore, they must reflect God’s characteristics and love to their children and train their children in God’s way. In other words, parents must provide an atmosphere of obeying God, love, forgiveness and godly training. And it is in this type of environment that we understand the importance of discipline of which spanking is not outlawed but directed in the training up of a child.
Parental spanking has been an accepted means of disciplining from the beginning of human history until Dr. Spock in the 1960’s. Needless to say there can obviously be an abuse of this form of discipline. No parent should ever strike a child in anger. If spanking is used to vent parental frustration; or conducted in anger or practiced to obtain some peace and quiet then it is wrong and should be avoided. Nowadays, the generally accepted view (successfully promoted by child training experts) is that all forms of parental spanking are "primitive and brutal" methods of disciplining a child used by uneducated, unenlightened people. In some countries, parental spanking is condemned as a criminal activity and is labeled as "child abuse."
Isn’t it also true that the world’s "experts" have managed to convince this generation that having more things makes us happier, having more education makes us wiser, having more training makes us more useful and having good looks makes us more confident and secure, killing unborn children is tolerated. However, is this generation happier, wiser, more useful and confident and secure? Shouldn’t we seek a better way - God’s way? What is God’s word regarding parental spanking?
1. SPANKING IS NECESSARY FOR TRAINING A CHILD
“Young people are prone to foolishness and fads; the cure comes through tough-minded discipline.” Proverbs 22:15 (MSG)