Summary: Are the gifts given you all about you or Him?
1 Cor 14:1-12
14:1 Follow after charity, and desire spiritual gifts, but rather that ye may prophesy.
2 For he that speaketh in an unknown tongue speaketh not unto men, but unto God: for no man understandeth him; howbeit in the spirit he speaketh mysteries.
3 But he that prophesieth speaketh unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort.
4 He that speaketh in an unknown tongue edifieth himself; but he that prophesieth edifieth the church.
5 I would that ye all spake with tongues, but rather that ye prophesied: for greater is he that prophesieth than he that speaketh with tongues, except he interpret, that the church may receive edifying.
6 Now, brethren, if I come unto you speaking with tongues, what shall I profit you, except I shall speak to you either by revelation, or by knowledge, or by prophesying, or by doctrine?
7 And even things without life giving sound, whether pipe or harp, except they give a distinction in the sounds, how shall it be known what is piped or harped?
8 For if the trumpet give an uncertain sound, who shall prepare himself to the battle?
9 So likewise ye, except ye utter by the tongue words easy to be understood, how shall it be known what is spoken? for ye shall speak into the air.
10 There are, it may be, so many kinds of voices in the world, and none of them is without signification.
11 Therefore if I know not the meaning of the voice, I shall be unto him that speaketh a barbarian, and he that speaketh shall be a barbarian unto me.
12 Even so ye, forasmuch as ye are zealous of spiritual gifts, seek that ye may excel to the edifying of the church. KJV
When God provides the gift be sure you value it and make sure you have really have the gift you think you have before you go off to use something and get discouraged. Make sure somewhere people affirm the gift in you. Ask a pastor you respect to give you the opportunity to exercise the gift so he can give you a fair evaluation especially if you think you have the gift of evangelism or want to be a missionary. Do that kind of work in your local church and if people who love you share and say that you may wish to rethink or pray again about your gifts then do so.
The story is told of a young man who got up to preach in his home church and did a very bad job at it worse than just first time nerves and such. An old deacon asked him afterward how he knew he was called to preach. The young man said “I looked up in the sky and two clouds formed a P and a C and I took that as meaning preach Christ.” The old man said, “Son, in your case it meant plant corn.”
Harsh, but better than the young man running from church to church getting discouraged and maybe quitting church completely. Many men have sought to exercise gifts they did not have or jump out somewhere before they are ready. That is partly way so many preachers quite the ministry each month. Some were never gifted and others were in too big of a hurry to get their own pulpit. They needed more mentoring or growth time and it so it did not go well and then they quit. Be careful.