Summary: New meaning for the phrase "bonds of matrimony."
Woodworking and Marriage
16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. KJV
Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. KJV
kollao (kol-lah’-o); from kolla ("glue"); to glue, i.e. (passively or reflexively) to stick (figuratively):
KJV-cleave, join (self), keep company.
23And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. KJV
OT: 1692 dabaq (daw-bak’); a primitive root; properly, to impinge, i.e. cling or adhere; figuratively, to catch by pursuit:
KJV-abide fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard after), be joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, stick, take.
(Biblesoft’s New Exhaustive Strong’s Numbers and Concordance with Expanded Greek-Hebrew Dictionary. Copyright (c) 1994, Biblesoft and International Bible Translators, Inc.)
It is obvious that God takes marriage and sex quite seriously. Through the centuries, no marriage was considered binding until it was consummated. This was so important that in one culture the parents would s it on either side of the bed to assure that it had happened and to assure that no questions about the virginity of the bride would arise.
Others were more discreet about it, but they still found a way to ensure that the wedding was consummated. Virginity was not as important in some cultures, but consummation was important in all. Even today, there is a debate over the estate of a very old man because the family states that his marriage to a very young and voluptuous woman was never consummated.
Since God uses the phrase "one flesh" in both a marriage and one night stand reference it would appear that He views sex to be the act of consummating a marriage. Many are hung up over certificates and rituals, which are not bad and indeed very beneficial. Some think that it is the only way to be married so they skip the certificate. However, it would appear that if a single man and woman were stranded on an island, gave up hope for being rescued and decided to have sex if they fell in love or just to make the best of a bad situation God would consider them married once they had sex. What they or society would think about it if they were rescued after a long period would not matter. To God, they are man and wife.
Some of us would think that is OK or logical because we recognize common law marriage. Each state has various laws as to when that occurs. Many people do not realize that they went to bed shacking up and woke up married because they crossed over the timeframe that the state has set which can be as low as sixty days. Nonetheless, they do become married in the eyes of the law and can lose property or custody of children should one of the "spouses" find this out during the "divorce."