Summary: Most married couples have a barrier between them. But they don't even realize it. Thus, they operate with a major handicap. What can be done about it? God only knows. But the walls can come down by the grace of God!
I. Realize your problem – Obvious symptoms.
A. Blame - He had an affair; it’s all his fault. I wasn’t supportive, encouraging, etc.
B. Denial - Worked hard, good provider, don’t know why?
C. Bitter - Saw my father do that, not me! Interpret everything in light of the
D. Vindictive - say cruel things, take it out on kids, hostile at work, even road rage
E. You must deal with past baggage & faulty coping mechanisms . . . God’s way!
II. Resolve your past - Dealing with those responsible . . . God’s way!
A. Receive God’s forgiveness. Assume responsibility for your own failure in the marriage. James 5:16
1. Repent - Change your thinking, admit you’re wrong or at fault.
B. Extending God’s forgiveness. Romans 12:19-21
1. You are not judge, jury or executioner.
2. Vengeance is God’s responsibility.
3. Go and be reconciled. Matthew 5:23-25
4. “I forgive you person’s name.” Ephesians 4:32 Jesus said upon the cross
“Father forgive them.” Luke 23:34
True forgiveness goes the 2nd mile, overcoming evil with good. Not
because they deserve it, but because the love of God compels you.
III. Release the captive - free indeed . . . God’s way!
A. Freedom from guilt - I am forgiven!
B. Freedom from shame - I am clean!
C. Freedom from condemnation - I am loved!
D. Freedom from rejection - I am accepted!
IV. Restore your dignity - you attitude toward yourself . . . God’s way!
A. God forgives me - I forgive myself.
B. God accepts me - I accept myself.
C. God loves me - I love myself.
Copyright©2003 Dr. Lewis Gregory, Source Ministries International
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