Summary: This sermon provides tips for a Wife to better understand her husband. You can watch it, or download the audio at www.glenvillenewlife.com
Investment Tips For Wives
The Bible says 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. It also tells us to rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let’s look at video clip of a man who knows what it’s been like to have received favor from the Lord, through the wife that he found. (Walking Her Home Video Can Be Dowloaded From Our website at www.glenvillenewlife.com Look At Worship Videos 11/04/07 Worship Service)
Nearly every man who is standing at the altar desires to have the woman who is marching down the aisle be with him years later when he expects to walk her home down that final path together. Wives what can you do to help make them become a reality for the both of you? Our Old Testament verse says Proverbs 14:1 (NIV) 1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
This verse tells us that when it comes to marriage, there are only two kind of women. There is the wise one and the foolish one. What separates the two, is what they do in their homes. One is a builder, the other is a destroyer. Yet both must live within the place that is either being built up or torn down. Notice also there is no neutral place in which the home is simply staying as it is. No there is either a building up taking place or a tearing down going on.
Notice also that the house does not automatically happen. We are deceived into thinking all you need to have is feelings of love to build a home. The word build, suggest some hard work and sweat is going to take place. The word build means a cost is going to be involved. No love alone is not enough. No you need some wisdom and some action to go along with it.
A wise woman has taken the time to look, listen, and learn from others who have wisdom and insight. She recognizes that someone else may have journeyed down this road who can make her wiser still. She seeks new opportunities from which to learn and grow. A foolish woman simply does and says whatever she feels like doing or saying at a given moment. She does not fully think through the consequences of her actions. She is actually surprised by how damage has been done until it’s too late to repair the process. Unfortunately the wise and foolish woman dwells in each wife.
My goal is to provide you with some tips to help you in your building of your home and to provide you some advice on becoming a wise woman as a wife to your husband. The first thing he needs from you is to recognize he is a man and not a woman.
He does not think the way you think, he does not hear the way you hear, he does not see the way you see and he does not feel the way you feel. If you want him to understand you, you have got to offer him a lot of help. It’s not that he is intentionally trying to get on your last nerve, it’s simply he does not have a clue to what’s really going on at times. His mind is focused on something else.
Let me give you some practical examples. When you set a basket of laundry at the top of the stairs. It’s your way of saying, “take these clothes downstairs and put them in the washer”. When he passed by the clothes three times, that’s all he did was pass by them. He did not even see the basket because his eyes were focused on the project he was going to the basement to get.
On his way back upstairs, when he saw the basket, he didn’t know if you had brought it up or was sending it down. Laundry was not on his mind so he did not think twice about it. When you see that basket still there, don’t go into an attitude problem because he is intentionally putting all the extra work on you.
Do something more blunt like asking him, “honey would you take the clothes down and put them in the washer.” Now we as men know exactly what needs to be done. You can keep saying, “aw you ought to see what needs to be done.” But remember a wise woman builds her home. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be wise?
We as men do no hear and detect the same things you do in a conversation. You’re at a family gathering having a good time. Then one of our crazy relatives makes a comment. After a while we notice that you are more distant than usual. Pretty soon we ask you if something is wrong, but you say no. We’re dumb enough to believe you at your word.