Summary: This sermon provides a theology of marriage and how couples can free themselves from expectations that cause disappointment and frustration in their marriages.
Relationships: The Struggle Is Real: Marriage
We are in the third message of our series Relationships: The Struggle Is Real. We have looked at Dating and Singles. We have upcoming Parenting, Divorce, and Being Single Again because of death. Today we are going to look at Marriage.
How many of you have gone to a movie and been given 3D glasses that actually work. If they work properly, you can see things that others cannot see. As a matter of fact, you see things that are not really there in front of you, even though it looks as if you can reach out and touch the images in front of you. If you keep the glasses on long enough, you will believe what you are seeing is true and accept it as normal.
We all see the world differently. We all see our church differently. We all see each other differently. It all depends on what pair of glasses we see through. When you become a Christian, you agree to put on a pair of glasses so that you can start to see things from God’s point of view. The whole purpose of reading the bible and studying the bible is to see things from God’s point of view, because the Scriptures are God’s gift to us to understand who God is.
So the battle comes for us in that somebody is always trying to get us to take off our glasses and see the world from their point of view. There is nothing wrong with looking at the world with their glasses on so long as we realize that’s what’s happening, but before we make a decision to act, we should put back on God’s glasses to see the world from God’s viewpoint because ultimately that is the view that is going to matter, and that is the view that is going to put us in the best position to get the most out of life, and to keep us within God’s will.
Here is how some people think of God and what God thinks of morality from the Wiz, where everybody knows the Emerald City is Green…..The Bible tells us that God does not change. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.
God’s view is rarely going to be the popular view or even the majority view even among the people who call on God, but it is going to be the right view. Jesus is the Son of God. That means Jesus knows everything. Jesus accepted the book of Genesis as being the word of God, because he actually quoted from it and refer to events in it as being accurate historical events. So we can trust the book of Genesis, not only because it is in the Bible, but because Jesus trusted the book of Genesis.
Jesus wore a pair of glasses that always looked at the world from God the Father’s point of view. He said, “I can only do, what I see the Father doing.” That’s a good pair of glasses to be wearing. Can you see the Father doing what you are doing?
The idea of marriage, was a God idea. You may recall, when God created life, everything was created in abundance and in pairs simply by God saying, “let there be. “ When it came time for the creation of a human being, God didn’t speak humans into existence in the same way. He took the time to create one person, by the name of Adam from the dust of the earth. So when God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone”, God was saying, “It is not good for there not to be another creature of His kind that was created in the image of God.” God is not making a declaration here that everybody needs to be married in order not to be alone.
God came up with the idea of the sexes. He created a woman who was like the man but not exactly a man. God created the woman with the idea of sex in mind. So God came up with the idea of sex and defined what the boundaries of it would be. God wanted the man and the woman to share in the kind of oneness that exists between the Trinity in the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
God brought these two first people together, named Adam and Eve and God married them. The idea was that the man would leave all of his closest relationships and attachments behind, cleave to his wife—(emotionally and spiritually), and become one flesh with her physically. Adam and Eve were so much one, that they were naked and had nothing to hide because their relationship was pure and holy in God’s sight.